The Dangers of Being Black

We live in a world where so many people are offended by the presence of Black people. If they aren’t scoffing the N-word at us, they are threatening us with bodily harm, causing bodily harm, lying on us to the police or worse. The hundreds of videos uploaded daily don’t lie. That’s why so many Black people have their phones set on ready to record because it happens so often.

As a Black woman and a person of color, I have to deal with racism, prejudice and discrimination every single day. If its not happening while I’m out and about, it’s happening when I’m out with my racially diverse group of friends. When it’s not happening under those circumstances, it’s happening at work. It’s inevitable. There’s no escaping it and that’s an unfortunate fact for someone Black.

Anyone who says such racism, prejudice and discrimination doesn’t exist is fooling themselves. The average non-Black person wouldn’t last a day in a Black person’s shoes and that is an undeniable fact. Black people get up every day not knowing what type of racism, prejudice or discrimination they are going to face. Say what you want, but that is strength, courage and soul personified.

Until next time, be safe everyone.

Why Tagging Is Important

Within the massive world of social media, credit isn’t always given to the original poster when their work is being shared. I’ve seen my fair share of posts over the years that weren’t given credit and it annoyed me. When I contacted the individuals who were all too happy to post my work without tagging me, they quickly took it down. Smart move because I’m one of the last people on earth you want to try that with.

This morning, I woke up to a pleasant surprise where another blog post of mine was shared on a very popular Instagram account. It was a blog post that I penned over a year ago. Lately, a number of my blog posts have been shared on social media and I’m always grateful when I’m tagged. 🤗❤️🙏🏾

Tagging is very important when sharing other people’s work so please give credit where credit is due. Don’t take credit for other people’s work or creativity. It makes you look shady and not only that, it may come back to haunt you. You don’t want someone like me calling you out after I found out you passed off my work as your own. Just saying…

Until next time…

Black Female Problems 

I know some people don’t mean any harm, but c’mon… 

Allow this writer to deviate for just a moment. There was a picture floating around of me (not anymore now that I had it removed) where I had allowed my hair to grow really long. I had my hair blown out and flat ironed straight. Every single time this writer allows her hair to grow really long and straightens it, I have to hear or read such shameful back handed comments such as:

Omgosh she’s so cute to be Black.

You’re so pretty for a Black girl.

I’m not really attracted to Black women, but you’re beautiful. 

That’s not her hair, it’s a weave!

If her hair is really that long, she’s got to be mixed. 

Stop saying she’s Black, she’s obviously half Dominican. Black women don’t look like that. 

As a Black woman, comments like that are not amusing whatsoever. Statements like that insinuates that Black women can’t be pretty and that only mixed Black women can be attractive. Not only that, to assume that my hair is a weave or that my hair only grows long because people assume I’m mixed also insinuates that Black women can’t grow long hair. Take it from this writer, when you give a compliment leave race out of it. There’s beauty in all of us and that is an undeniable fact. 

Until next time…keep on writing! 

Social Media and Self Image

The media, specifically social media has distorted the minds of many individuals regarding beauty and self image. It has single-handedly caused millions of women and men to find unsubstantiated flaws within themselves and others. Due to the media’s idealistic views regarding beauty and body image, millions of women and men all across the world struggle with identity issues each and every day. Even worse, millions of adolescent girls and boys struggle with self esteem issues due to the countless unrealistic ads that are thrust in their face on a daily basis. The majority of these ads (whether they are on television or in print form) include individuals who are heavily photo shopped or laced in makeup. If you ask me, that is a far cry from being real or authentic. Still, many fail to see that basic truth and they would rather base their thoughts and views on what the media deems as beautiful or acceptable.

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As a society, we put too much stock into what the media considers as beautiful and which body types it hails as acceptable. Why do you think so many people including celebrities are rushing to get themselves filled with silicone, plastic or to have their face and bodies tucked and/or stretched? It is because they too are victims of the media and its mentality of what is beautiful and acceptable. The MEDIA KINGS know that society as a whole is very insecure and they know that society as a whole can easily be manipulated by the things they see.  One thing is for sure, the plastic surgeons are not complaining.

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Instead of trying to look like this person or act like the next person, why not accept yourself for who you are? Do not allow yourself to be warped by social media and its false standards of beauty and acceptance. You will never be happy if you do. Whether you are short or tall, big or small, find beauty within yourself and accept the person that YOU are. Beauty is not defined by one’s race, bone structure or body type. Beauty is defined by individuality and confidence and when you have that, no one not even the power of social media can come close to touching you.

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Until next time…

Am I Wrong For Feeling This Way?

It was mentioned to me today that I need to focus on increasing the amount of “likes” I get on a blog and Instagram post. Why? That is not my focus nor do I care. So what if I do not get many “likes” on a blog post or  Instagram post. As long as my content is engaging readers that is all that matters. “Likes” mean nothing to me if you really want me to be completely honest. I am more focused on how my writing impacts readers because at the end of the day, that is what matters the most to me as a writer.

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It was suggested to me once again to buy likes for my blog and Instagram posts so I can be more popular. C’mon now, really? BookingAnita does NOT and will NEVER pay for ANYONE to like a post that I make. It is not that serious. If you are looking for me to care about the number of “likes” I get on a post, stop looking because I never will. Instead of focusing on the amount of “likes” you get, focus on the merit or value of your post. That to me is much more important. You cannot put a price tag on that.

Until next time…

Buying Likes and Followers? Get Outta Here!

Ever since I joined Twitter and Instagram I have been bombarded by fake profiles, bots and spammers. They foam all out the mouth uncontrollably spamming me and my inbox about purchasing followers and likes. Seriously? Buying likes and followers?! Get outta here! Buying followers and likes seems, well, pathetic and I would much rather build up my profiles with genuine REAL people than with fake ones. Maybe they feel “sorry” for me because I don’t have a huge following on Twitter, maybe they feel sorry for me because I only get a few likes on Instagram. Listen, let me be very clear, likes and followers is NOT what I pay attention to. Conversations and real interactions with genuinely interested people is all I care about. If someone chooses to follow me because they genuinely find me interesting as a writer, I am all for it since I love meeting new people. It has never crossed my mind to pay someone to follow me or to like any of my posts because to me it is not that serious.

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These spammers and bots are in it for the money and I have no doubt based on the amount of spam I get that they are making tons of money supplying likes and fake followers. They don’t care about you, your purpose or your goals in life. They only care about one thing: your money. So don’t get all worked up if you don’t have a lot of followers or get a few likes on a post. Just keep doing you and continue to pursue the things that you love. The followers and likes (if that is what you really care about) will come later as you build up your platform and profile. Save your money for something more meaningful instead of spending it on some numbers because at the end of the day, likes and follows are just that, numbers. You can’t take followers and likes to the bank.

Let’s Connect!

As a writer and author, I feel that it is very important for me to establish a good relationship with as many readers as possible. Why? Simply put, most readers want to know the person behind the written story and not just the characters in the book itself. It is quite natural (in my opinion) to want to know the face behind a published story and their reasons for writing it. Now I will be the first to admit that I want readers to be totally engrossed in my storytelling, but at the same time I want them to also get to know me as a person. I personally love hearing from readers because it makes my enthusiasm for writing even more rewarding. Yes, I enjoy inflicting joy, pain, love and laughter on readers, but what I enjoy even more is being able to openly communicate with readers from all walks of life. Anytime I hear from a reader, it makes my pursuit of writing worth my while.

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I invite readers to reach out to me via Twitter, Facebook , Pinterest or Instagram because I sincerely want to hear from you. Feel free to also follow my blog. I am the most active on Twitter so feel free to follow me or tweet me at anytime. With that being said, it is my goal to become more active on Facebook, Pinterest and Instagram as I am on Twitter. I look forward to connecting with as many readers as I possibly can and I wish each and everyone all the best!

Happy Reading!

~A.L. Gibson