Ladies, We Are Guilty…

Contrary to popular belief, I think that men have the most sweetest and selfless souls. Now I know all men aren’t like this, but a lot are. Those that are are truly special. I have a lot of dear male friends and we always have some of the most meaningful conversations. One recently being on how most women know how to play on men heart strings.

Guilty, guilty as charged and ladies, we are all guilty of this. When it comes to getting our way, we will sometimes do just about anything. And don’t let us be “dolled up.” For some it’s throwing tantrums, for others it’s crying and for the rest like myself, we make certain faces. My friends know that with me, I have three levels of faces I will resort to whenever I’m told ‘No’, which is rare. Once I get to my third face, it’s game over. Gone ahead and give it to me. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜­

My first face is what my friends call my “Stank” face. This is my first reaction when I’m told ‘No’ on something I want. 😀

My second face is my “But Why?” face. Here, I’m pleading my case as to why I should have what I asked for. πŸ€·πŸΎβ€β™€οΈ

My third face is my “You Know You Want To Tell Me Yes” face. 😜 Gets them every time.

To all the wonderful men out there, ‘Thank You’ for being such wonderful guys and huggie bears to us ladies. We know when it comes to dealing with us, it’s not always easy. Especially when we are tap dancing on your last nerve at times.

Until next time…

Ladies, Don’t You…

Ladies, don’t you hate it when a man whose married or in a relationship tries to hit on you? The men with a lot of money are the worst ones! I don’t care how big your house is, how many zeroes and commas you have in your bank account or how you “think” you can make me happy. If you are married or in a relationship, Anita DON’T want you. I DON’T care about all your material possessions…πŸ™„

They got a wife / significant other and / or kids at home and they are out here chasing women. It’s a shame whenever I get dressed up and go out, I have to deal with married or “committed” men thirsting after me. Sir, go home and be with your wife / significant other. Be there for your kids sir. Anita is not a home wrecker sir. Anita has never been second best to a man sir. Being the “other woman” is NOT my thing sir. πŸ™…πŸΎβ€β™€οΈBe gone sir…πŸ‘‹πŸΎ

Ladies, if you’ve ever contemplated dating or “messing around” with a married man or a man in a relationship, DON’T do it. You’re asking for trouble. I’ve seen it happen to so many women. Some women really be out here crying / fussing over a man who they know is married or in relationship. He DON’T belong to you madam! Whatchu cryin’ for? You allowed yourself to get played like a fiddle madam. πŸ€·πŸΎβ€β™€οΈ

Fooling around with married or “committed” men???

Until next time…

But Why?

So my family, friends and I had a big discussion about an article that was posted last month. If you’ve been following my blog for a while, you know that I either agreed or disagreed with the article for me to even discuss it on my blog. Let me just go ahead and tell you that I disagreed with it. This article, which I will share the link at the end, discussed gift-giving and how women should reciprocate most gifts with sex. Why? C’mon now. Bookinganita is about to keep it real. We’re all grown here so I’m not sugar coating nothing!

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I’ve received many nice gifts in the past and even now and I disagree that I should reciprocate sex to show my gratitude for the gifts I was given. The body is precious and it should be seen as something highly valuable and treated as such. No woman or man should open their body so quickly or easily. Why do you think millions of women and men around the world have regrets about sleeping with a particular individual or individuals? It’s because they realized (too late) that particular individual or individuals didn’t deserve their precious body or time. They gave it up too quickly. How sad.

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I’m very cautious when it comes to accepting gifts from men and I don’t accept every gift that’s given to me. Some gifts that are offered clearly gives off the impression of what is expected. For instance, I’ve had exotic vacation packages given to me as “gifts” that I politely refused. You know and I know good and well those exotic trips were not planned for us to just sight see, shop, eat, laugh and talk. I’m not naive. Not by far. You know what was expected most likely on the first night of the trip and so do I. Bookinganita doesn’t get down like that. No sir. He wasn’t my husband.

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I’ll be the first to admit that I won’t turn down a nice gift that is sincerely given from the heart. Some men enjoy giving gifts from the heart and honestly expect nothing in return. With that being said, there are other ways besides sex that a woman can show her appreciation for a gift that was given to her. I disagree that a woman should be expected to reciprocate sex when she is given multiple gifts or expensive gifts. Sex in itself is a gift and it shouldn’t be given to just anyone. Go tell them Bookinganita said to stop it and to get themselves together. Click here for the article.

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Until next time…

Just Disgusting

I had a dear in-law of mine ask me if I would blog about an unpleasant experience she had to unfortunately deal with. Not only that, she asked if I would share my own personal experiences. For her, I most certainly will. Let me warn you, this is going to be a long blog post.

One of my dearest in-laws who is White was called a coal burner. Why? Because she is married to one of my cousins who is Black. How disgusting! It upsetted her so bad that she broke down in tears. That really made me angry. From what she and my other White in-laws have explained to me, if you’re an attractive White woman who dates or is married to a Black man, you are called this derogatory term by racist / prejudiced White men. SMH…

You see, the White women my cousins are married to are attractive slim blondes and brunettes; I’m led to believe that this upsets racist / prejudiced individuals with low self-esteem. This notion of mine was backed up by my White in-laws. Now that’s some foul and disgusting behavior.

I personally have received “looks” of disapproval because the White men who ask me out are tall, well-built and well-off. The “dolled up” Anita pales in comparison to the Anita most people see during the day. I remember overhearing one woman say I was asked out only because my weave made me look “mixed” SMH. Did you know it’s unreal for a Black woman to have hair all down her back that’s hers? (Insert Sarcasm) Don’t get me started on the expensive gifts I’ve received and still receive. It’s enough to send racist / prejudiced inviduals into a full blown anger induced conniption fit! How sad…

Why make hurtful comments towards an individual because they chose to fall in love with a person based on their character and not their color? Also, one cannot assume that because an individual chooses to date or marry someone of the opposite race that they don’t care for or have never dated within their own race. Love doesn’t have a color and if more people spreaded love instead of hate, the world would be a much better place.

Until next time…

How Come?

Marry for money that is. Since I’m on a brief break from writing, I had to take a moment to blog about this after seeing another article on this. Do you know how many women are stuck in a loveless marriage because they married for money? Millions! The statistics don’t lie, look it up. Many carry on adulterous affairs behind their husband’s back because even though they love his money, they don’t love him. How sad…

In the past, I was criticized for not marrying for money and as I stated once before, I could have been married several times. Even though they all loved me deeply and had plenty of money to burn, I didn’t love them. They deserve to be with someone who would love them back equally, if not more. I couldn’t do that to them. I wouldn’t be able to live with myself and besides, that’s not fair to them.

I don’t want to be like some women, unable to care for myself because I married a man for his income. What happens if it doesn’t work out and you don’t receive a fair amount of alimony to care for your needs or standard of cost of living that you were once used to? Something to think about…

In my personal social circles (which is all across the United States), I encounter men of all races who have plenty of money and like to show it off. If I wanted to have them and / or their money, I easily could. It would take very little effort on my part. Let me just say that when I’m dressed up with my hair out or down, I don’t have to work hard to get a man with a lot of money nor do I even have to look for it.

Using” people is not my thing because I wouldn’t want someone to do that to me. To me, that’s cruel and unacceptable. If I’m going to marry someone, I first have to love him. To each his own, but Bookinganita wouldn’t have it any other way.

Until next time…

What’s the Rush?Β 

I was asked what are my thoughts on marriage and rushing into marriage after reading two articles sent to me. I will share the links to these two articles at the end of this post. Are you ready for my two cents? Of course you are, let’s do this!

Marriage. It’s beautiful. It’s great and it can be fulfilling. That is, if you are with the right person. Studies have shown that there are millions of people who have been married more than once due to a variety of different reasons including, but not limited to: infidelity, adultery, incompatibility, lack of love, unhappiness, abuse and financial strain. Adding to that, thousands of women and men file for divorce each and every day. How sad.

I for one want everyone to be happy with who they are and who they are with. We all deserve that much don’t we? That is why in my personal opinion, rushing into marriage is not a good idea. Many mistakenly marry out of lust instead of love and they don’t realize it until it’s too late. There is a difference between the two you know… 

I could have been married several times, but I knew that we weren’t meant to be together. No matter how much that person loves you (and these men loved and cared for me deeply), if you don’t love them the same way back, you are hurting them and setting you both up for marital failure. Not to mention, it’s unfair to the other person. After all they, just like you and I, deserve to be with someone who will love them and accept them just the same.

I personally wouldn’t want to be married more than once or divorced at anytime in my life, although I know it does and can happen. I just know that for me, I prefer to take my time when it comes to marriage because only then would I be able to find the right person who is meant to be with me and only me for a lifetime. Now with all that being said, why on earth would I rush to get married?

So there you have it. That is my two cents. You can find the articles I referenced here and here. Until next time…