Black Female Problems 

I know some people don’t mean any harm, but c’mon… 

Allow this writer to deviate for just a moment. There was a picture floating around of me (not anymore now that I had it removed) where I had allowed my hair to grow really long. I had my hair blown out and flat ironed straight. Every single time this writer allows her hair to grow really long and straightens it, I have to hear or read such shameful back handed comments such as:

Omgosh she’s so cute to be Black.

You’re so pretty for a Black girl.

I’m not really attracted to Black women, but you’re beautiful. 

That’s not her hair, it’s a weave!

If her hair is really that long, she’s got to be mixed. 

Stop saying she’s Black, she’s obviously half Dominican. Black women don’t look like that. 

As a Black woman, comments like that are not amusing whatsoever. Statements like that insinuates that Black women can’t be pretty and that only mixed Black women can be attractive. Not only that, to assume that my hair is a weave or that my hair only grows long because people assume I’m mixed also insinuates that Black women can’t grow long hair. Take it from this writer, when you give a compliment leave race out of it. There’s beauty in all of us and that is an undeniable fact. 

Until next time…keep on writing! 

Chile, Please… 

OK, listen up. So I signed up to do a crotchet faux locs challenge and let me tell you, this writer is about to throw in her towel LOL! You have no idea. It’s been rough. Don’t get me wrong, I love wearing styles that will give me a break from doing my own hair, but this has been more of a nuisance than anything. Why? Because my own hair is so THICK! Omgosh! My scalp is always hot because all of my THICK hair is braided down to my scalp and these faux locs are crocheted in it. Hammercy! My scalp is not used to this. Oh uh uh… 

Ahhhhhhh, I’m going to keep them in for another week, but after that…that’s it! Enough is enough! My Goodness! Maybe if I didn’t have such thick hair it would be alright, but I’m ready to take these thangs out now! ASAP! Like PRONTO! My hair has been growing like weeds again and I need my scalp to be open and free so it can breathe! My poor little cocoa brown scalp has to deal with this foolishness for one more week. My hair is just beggin’ to be Free! One more week Chile, one more week. Let me pretend to be all smiles as I post the same pic I did just the other day. Except on this one, I’ll just use a filter so it won’t seem too bad. LMBO! 😂😂😂

Until next time… 

Stop It. 

This writer needs to vent a little so bear with me. You’re not going to believe this. 

I stumbled across an article recently where a group of non-Black women refused to believe that Black women can grow long hair. Are you serious? C’mon now, that’s just ignorant. Believe it or not, you have many Black women (including myself) whose hair can grow very long and is long. Some keep it under wraps, some choose to keep their hair short and some choose to wear weaves. All the pictures I’m going to post tonight are of Black women and their own natural hair. 

Just to prove a point, I’m going to stay away from cutting or trimming my hair until the first of January 2018. I’m going to keep my hair in protective styles like I always do and and when January comes, I’ll post a pic of it straighten. I just love to prove people wrong. I get this warm cozy feeling inside Lmbo! Seriously though, what it all boils down to is taking care of your hair and nurturing your scalp. Yes, it’s that simple. 

Black women can’t grow hair or long hair?!?! Please! Just you watch and see….

Until next time… 


A few weeks ago, I saw a documentary on Black women and natural hair. As I watched this particular documentary unfold, there was one part of me that felt proud, but then there was the other part of me that felt a little disturbed. I was happy to see more Black women embracing their own natural hair, but I was bothered by the sheer number of Black women who referred to Black natural hair as ugly and “nappy.” 

Here is the deal, regardless of your hair type or texture, if you do not take care of it your hair will get “nappy” or shall I say tangled. Often times the word “nappy” is referred to Black or African textured hair when in fact, “nappy” hair can occur in all races and ethnic groups. I could not help but to shake my head as I saw some Black women refer to their own natural hair or Black women with natural hair as ugly. It was bad enough that they called it “nappy.” SMH… 

There was one group of Black women who proudly stated they would “rock a weave” before they would rock their own natural hair. Oh. My. Goodness. I do not believe they realized just how absurb they sounded when they made such a statement. So you mean to tell me that you would spend hundreds to thousands of dollars to wear synthetic hair or someone else’s hair before you would wear your own?! Please go sit down and face the wall. Right now! Do not come out until I tell you to. Maybe next time you will learn not to say such a self-hating thing. 

I for one have natural hair as I discussed previously on my blog, and I love every multi texture that is scattered across my head. If you choose to wear your hair relaxed or natural, the choice is yours. I am quite sure you are beautiful either way. Just love your hair, take care of it and nurture it because your hair is a beautiful extension of you. Black or African textured is not ugly or “nappy.” It is different, but it is far from being ugly or “nappy.” 

Until next time…