Edges Laid

Since my Black Hair Struggles post, some readers were interested in what I used to lay my edges. I don’t mind DMs inquiring about hair products I use because it may work for you. Black women, we know we like to have our edges laid don’t we? LMBO! By the way, some of my non-Black readers asked if my hair from yesterday’s post was wet. The answer is No. My hair was in a wash n’ go low ponytail and I took it down. I’ll explain what a wash n’ go is in a few…

For my edges, I personally like to use two types: Hicks Edge Control and Mielle Organics Edge Gel. For me, using these two together lays my edges all day. For some other Black women, they might choose to use just one particular type of edge control. I prefer these two. There are so many different types to choose from, you just have to find one that works for you my fellow naturalistas. 😉

Alright, for my non-Black readers, a wash n’ go is when a Black person with natural hair (hair with no chemicals to alter the hair’s texture or structure) applies a product or products to their freshly washed hair to define their curls, kinks or waves. For some Black people like myself, a wash n’ go can last a whole week.

I just spritz my hair with water every morning to make my curls, kinks and waves spring up again. I only apply moisturizer to my straight sections of hair because there is nothing to define with straight hair 😐. I just try to blend it’s stubborn self with the rest of my hair. The longer my hair gets again, the easier it will be to blend my straight hair with the rest of my hair.

I like to use products that keep my hair feeling soft because my hair is very soft. My favorite wash n’ go products are:

Question for my fellow natural hair women, what are your favorite wash n’ go product or products?

Until next time…

Black Hair Struggles

To all my Non-Black subscribers, feel free to skip this post.

As a Black woman, I love having natural hair, but there are times where I struggle with it. I struggle because I have different textures of hair scattered all across my head. Since I cut off over half of my hair, the struggle has been real. I completely forgot how difficult it is to mask all my different textures when my hair is shorter. Trying to blend my straight hair with my curly and wavy textures hasn’t been working with my wash n’ go’s.

My straight hair has been so disrespectful because it refuses to blend like it normally would when it was longer. My parents used to joke that I got stuck with the hair textures from every ancestor unlike my sisters and brother. My oldest sister’s hair is medium length, but her hair is relaxed. My second oldest sister’s hair is super curly and cropped short. My brother’s hair is wavy. Me? SMH, I have the curly, the kinky, the straight and the wavy. How fair is that?! 😤

I guess I can take solace in knowing that I’m definitely not alone because there are other Black women with multiple textures like myself. My friends love it because they like playing with all my different textures of hair. On the other hand, there are times when I’m in a love / hate relationship with my hair. If I had a choice to get rid of all my different textures, I still wouldn’t do it because my hair is what makes me, me. That doesn’t mean that my hair doesn’t sometimes get on my everlasting nerve. 🤦🏾‍♀️

Until next time…

Hair Swap Challenge

Time for another random post! This one is kinda long…🤔

Sooooooo, some of my friends have been bugging me about participating in some of the hair swap challenges. For those of you who aren’t familiar with this challenge, it’s when you swap your hair care routine with someone else’s hair care routine. With that being said, my friends want to take this hair swap challenge a little further by actually doing their hair care routine on my hair. Oh hammercy geezus no! I’m not able. Keep reading and I’ll tell you why…

Many of you who have been following my blog know that I have four textures of hair. Kinky, curly, wavy and straight. In addition to that, my hair is really long. I usually wear it in a high puff with my hair wrapped around several times that’s neatly folded and tucked. These friends of mine who are non-Black have been wanting to wash and style my hair for years. I guess I make it look fun and not only that, they are in love with my hair’s length. I must say, my hair is pretty awesome!

Here’s the thing: Afro textured hair is very different from what they are used to and not only that, the products used are on a different scale. So no, and they know Nita is not about to let that happen. I did agree to let them apply my favorite conditioner and masque to sections of my hair that I’ll already have detangled. The products below are the best in my opinion and smell sooooooo good! 🙌🏾 🙌🏾🙌🏾

Who knows? I may even let them rinse it out LMBO. Seriously, they would love that! 😂 They know I got nothing but love for them and they fell out laughing when I told them I was going to blog about it. Chile please! Friends. Gotta love them! 🤗

Until next time, enjoy your weekend!


Good Evening! Happy Evening! I hope that each of you are doing well. I wanted to do a quick blog post to answer a few questions about Afro-Textured hair. As a blogger, I enjoy blogging about a wide range of topics, but books and writing are my favorite.

I was asked, “What makes Afro-Textured hair so different?” The # 1 answer to that question is our curl pattern. The tighter the curl pattern, the kinkier and drier the hair is. The looser the curl pattern, the less kinkier and drier it is. Not only that, unlike all other races, our scalp doesn’t produce any oil which is why we have to oil or grease our scalp. Most of the time, I use oil instead of grease because I have multiple textures of hair.

Since I have kinky, curly, wavy and straight hair, I have to use products that will balance each texture. My hair thrives on jojoba oil, shea, mango, soy and cocoa butter. Regular deep conditioners or hair masks for Afro-Textured hair is a must. For those of you who are not familiar with how raw shea, mango, soy and cocoa butter looks like, I have posted a few pics below.

As for a few closeup pics of my hair, I have posted a few below as requested. Excuse my flakes, that is my edge control pomade that had started to flake up. I snapped these pics before washing my hair.

Until next time…

Good Riddance 

Whoo! Those faux locs are gone! Outta here! Gone bye bye! Buh Bye! 

Let me tell you, I don’t miss ’em one bit! My scalp was about to suffocate! I thought I was going to pass out once I felt that cool air hit my scalp again KMSL! My hair has been showing out and growing like weeds again. Especially the front crown of my hair. That’s where its really wavy and no matter how much I trim it back or brush it back, it just keeps coming back. 

It’s nice seeing you again my lovely bouquet of tresses. The kinky, the wavy, the curly and the straight. Each one of you represents a part of my ancestry. Although there are times where I wished I had just ONE texture instead of four. It would make my life so much easier. Just being honest… 

Until next time…wear your hair how you wanna wear it. Just make sure you wear it proudly! 

Power to the Puff! 

Hey! What’s happening? How’s it going? I hope you are doing well on this Monday evening. I wasn’t too happy to see Monday this morning, but I’m much better now KMSL!  

I was asked to blog briefly (most of you already know how I feel when it comes to posting about things other than writing) about my favorite natural hair style and why. If you see my title, then you can probably guess I love to wear my hair in a puff. Why? Because I have a host of different hair textures and its a fast and easy style for me. As I stated before, I have straight, wavy, kinky and curly hair. With that being said, I have to wear styles that will blend all those textures together LOL! Not to mention that I can fold and wrap all of my hair up in this style so my hair doesn’t look so massive. 

OK, there you have it. I kept my promise and have posted a pic as requested. Now I can get back to posting more about writing. 

Until next time my fellow writers, authors, poets and bloggers! No matter what anyone says, YOU are awesome! Keep writing! 

Natural and Proud

Alright, listen up! I was asked to blog about why I love being “natural” and what I like the least about being natural. Are you ready? C’mon, you know how I roll. Let’s do this!

First things first, before I delve into my reasons why I love being “natural”, I am going to break down what “natural” means in the African American community for those of you who are unfamiliar. In the African American community, being “natural” simply means that an individual’s hair is not chemically altered. Relaxers make African textured hair straight and Texturizers softens the curl pattern of African textured hair. Now that we got that out of the way, here are a few reasons why I love being natural.

(Please keep in mind that this is my opinion and not law. Whether your hair is chemically processed or natural, wear your crown of glory the way you see fit).

  1. I love my different textures of hair. I have curly hair, wavy hair, straight hair and kinky hair. I got the whole shebang LOL! Unlike my parents and siblings, I have more than one texture of hair. It is truly a sight to see when wet!
  2. I love the versatility. With natural hair, the number of different styles you can rock with natural hair is endless.
  3. I love shocking people with my hair. I usually keep my hair in a high puff or low bun; many people assume that I have short hair, but that is not the case. My hair currently hangs to my elbows when it is wet and stretched. Whenever I press my hair straight, I am amazed at the number of people who ask me where I bought my hair weave. Nothing is wrong with wearing weaves, but I do find it funny that most people who come up to me after I pressed my hair straight automatically assumes that I am wearing a weave. Hammercy!
  4. I love how healthy my hair is. My hair does so much on its own without any extra prodding. I pretty much let it do its own thing and it seems to work well for me. The growth rate of my hair is UNREAL!!!

What I Like the Least About Being Natural

Honestly, I like everything about being natural. There are a few inconveniences for me that I will list below.

  1. The time it takes to do my hair. Because I have so much of hair and many hair textures, it takes me anywhere from 2-4 hours to wash, detangle, deep condition and style my hair.
  2. The weight of my hair. My hair is really thick and the weight of it when it hangs tends to create slight dents in my scalp which is why I rarely wear my hair down or straight. Even when I wear my hair in a high puff, I have to wrap it a few times, tuck it and pin it into place. Nobody knows the different tricks I have to do to make my hair look less massive. Mannn…..
  3. My hair in the back grows super fast compared to my hair on the sides. A lot of people assume that I cut my hair in layers but I do not. My hair in the back reaches my elbows and my hair on the sides reaches my armpits. See what I mean when I say I let my hair do its own thing? Why mess up a good thing if it is working for you? Ha!

So, there you have it. As requested, I have posted a few pictures below of the different ways I have worn my hair.


Senegalese Twists
Twist Out
Pressed / Straighten Hair

Until next time…