Black Female Problems 

I know some people don’t mean any harm, but c’mon… 

Allow this writer to deviate for just a moment. There was a picture floating around of me (not anymore now that I had it removed) where I had allowed my hair to grow really long. I had my hair blown out and flat ironed straight. Every single time this writer allows her hair to grow really long and straightens it, I have to hear or read such shameful back handed comments such as:

Omgosh she’s so cute to be Black.

You’re so pretty for a Black girl.

I’m not really attracted to Black women, but you’re beautiful. 

That’s not her hair, it’s a weave!

If her hair is really that long, she’s got to be mixed. 

Stop saying she’s Black, she’s obviously half Dominican. Black women don’t look like that. 

As a Black woman, comments like that are not amusing whatsoever. Statements like that insinuates that Black women can’t be pretty and that only mixed Black women can be attractive. Not only that, to assume that my hair is a weave or that my hair only grows long because people assume I’m mixed also insinuates that Black women can’t grow long hair. Take it from this writer, when you give a compliment leave race out of it. There’s beauty in all of us and that is an undeniable fact. 

Until next time…keep on writing! 

Power to the Puff! 

Hey! What’s happening? How’s it going? I hope you are doing well on this Monday evening. I wasn’t too happy to see Monday this morning, but I’m much better now KMSL!  

I was asked to blog briefly (most of you already know how I feel when it comes to posting about things other than writing) about my favorite natural hair style and why. If you see my title, then you can probably guess I love to wear my hair in a puff. Why? Because I have a host of different hair textures and its a fast and easy style for me. As I stated before, I have straight, wavy, kinky and curly hair. With that being said, I have to wear styles that will blend all those textures together LOL! Not to mention that I can fold and wrap all of my hair up in this style so my hair doesn’t look so massive. 

OK, there you have it. I kept my promise and have posted a pic as requested. Now I can get back to posting more about writing. 

Until next time my fellow writers, authors, poets and bloggers! No matter what anyone says, YOU are awesome! Keep writing! 

Stop It. 

This writer needs to vent a little so bear with me. You’re not going to believe this. 

I stumbled across an article recently where a group of non-Black women refused to believe that Black women can grow long hair. Are you serious? C’mon now, that’s just ignorant. Believe it or not, you have many Black women (including myself) whose hair can grow very long and is long. Some keep it under wraps, some choose to keep their hair short and some choose to wear weaves. All the pictures I’m going to post tonight are of Black women and their own natural hair. 

Just to prove a point, I’m going to stay away from cutting or trimming my hair until the first of January 2018. I’m going to keep my hair in protective styles like I always do and and when January comes, I’ll post a pic of it straighten. I just love to prove people wrong. I get this warm cozy feeling inside Lmbo! Seriously though, what it all boils down to is taking care of your hair and nurturing your scalp. Yes, it’s that simple. 

Black women can’t grow hair or long hair?!?! Please! Just you watch and see….

Until next time… 

Does My Melanin Offend You? 

As a woman of color, I have had my share of racism and prejudices. It comes with the territory I guess of being Black. Many people today still feel and share the belief that Black people are unequal, uneducated and of a lower class. It has been said many times that cooking in the kitchen or cleaning up after folks is what Black people do best. Doing anything other than that or better than that poses a threat towards those with such warped beliefs. For some, it is almost too much for them to see another Black person do well, let alone better than them. For others, that connotation is simply unbelievable. 

Time and time again I have had to listen to my family and close friends vent about how they are treated at their places of employment. Some of it is subtle racism and some of it is not. There were times when my mouth was left open after hearing some of the things they went through because I could not fathom some of the things they were telling me. It is enough to make you angry and it is enough to break your heart. 

My subtle encounters with racism and prejudice usually happens when people find out “smart” or knowledgeable I am when it comes to a lot of things. I am sure at first glance I am seen as a small Black woman with not much to offer. As soon as they realize I am a far cry from what they once believed, that is when I begin to encounter such issues at my places of employment. I have not had a job yet where this did not happen to me. Needless to say, I never pay them any mind because a lot of it is due to insecurity issues and of course, hate. 

My melanin is what makes me stand out and my melanin is what makes me unique. Why should I apologize for being educated, motivated and Black? If my melanin offends you, I hate it for you. My cocoa butter brown skin is not going anywhere. It will continue to be radiant and glisten in the sunlight. If that offends you, oh well you will be alright. I will continue to block you out like I have done all the rest. Being the better person is what I do best! 

Until next time… 

Melanin and TLC

Greetings to all! I have to deviate from my usual blog posts about writing to make good on an overdue promise I was supposed to deliver on weeks ago. Please bear with me. Hammercy.

I get asked a lot how I keep my skin clear and healthy throughout the year. I was asked to post my response on my blog a while back and I honestly forgot about it until it was brought to my attention today. I don’t care to talk or blog about “beauty regimens” because that just doesn’t interest me. Writing is what I prefer to blog about. Seeing how I’m a minimalist, I don’t do much or anything special for my skin, but some people tend to think I do. As promised, although I’m a little late, this is how I take care of my skin:

1. I use clarifying cleansers for my face and sulfate free and paraben free body washes. 

2. I don’t pop my acne or pick at my healing scars. 

3. I use Shea, Mango and Cocoa Butter on my skin. When I’m too tired to make my own whipped body butter, I’ll get something close to it at The Body Shop. 

4. I don’t worry or stress over everything. I take one day at a time and try to see things in a way that will make me feel good on the inside so I can shine on the outside. 

5. I get regular sleep and of course, I make time for cat naps Lmbo! 

6. Melanin, Melanin and more Melanin. I hope I don’t offend anyone, but melanin has been proven to have a lot of anti aging properties. The biggest being that skin with high amounts of melanin doesn’t age as quickly. The skin stays tighter, firmer and more youthful looking due to the high amounts of melanin. 

That’s it folks. As you can see, it’s just that simple. I don’t like to over complicate things. Life can be complicating enough. 

Until next time….