Ladies, Don’t You…

Ladies, don’t you hate it when a man whose married or in a relationship tries to hit on you? The men with a lot of money are the worst ones! I don’t care how big your house is, how many zeroes and commas you have in your bank account or how you “think” you can make me happy. If you are married or in a relationship, Anita DON’T want you. I DON’T care about all your material possessions…๐Ÿ™„

They got a wife / significant other and / or kids at home and they are out here chasing women. It’s a shame whenever I get dressed up and go out, I have to deal with married or “committed” men thirsting after me. Sir, go home and be with your wife / significant other. Be there for your kids sir. Anita is not a home wrecker sir. Anita has never been second best to a man sir. Being the “other woman” is NOT my thing sir. ๐Ÿ™…๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธBe gone sir…๐Ÿ‘‹๐Ÿพ

Ladies, if you’ve ever contemplated dating or “messing around” with a married man or a man in a relationship, DON’T do it. You’re asking for trouble. I’ve seen it happen to so many women. Some women really be out here crying / fussing over a man who they know is married or in relationship. He DON’T belong to you madam! Whatchu cryin’ for? You allowed yourself to get played like a fiddle madam. ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธ

Fooling around with married or “committed” men???

Until next time…

How Come?

Marry for money that is. Since I’m on a brief break from writing, I had to take a moment to blog about this after seeing another article on this. Do you know how many women are stuck in a loveless marriage because they married for money? Millions! The statistics don’t lie, look it up. Many carry on adulterous affairs behind their husband’s back because even though they love his money, they don’t love him. How sad…

In the past, I was criticized for not marrying for money and as I stated once before, I could have been married several times. Even though they all loved me deeply and had plenty of money to burn, I didn’t love them. They deserve to be with someone who would love them back equally, if not more. I couldn’t do that to them. I wouldn’t be able to live with myself and besides, that’s not fair to them.

I don’t want to be like some women, unable to care for myself because I married a man for his income. What happens if it doesn’t work out and you don’t receive a fair amount of alimony to care for your needs or standard of cost of living that you were once used to? Something to think about…

In my personal social circles (which is all across the United States), I encounter men of all races who have plenty of money and like to show it off. If I wanted to have them and / or their money, I easily could. It would take very little effort on my part. Let me just say that when I’m dressed up with my hair out or down, I don’t have to work hard to get a man with a lot of money nor do I even have to look for it.

Using” people is not my thing because I wouldn’t want someone to do that to me. To me, that’s cruel and unacceptable. If I’m going to marry someone, I first have to love him. To each his own, but Bookinganita wouldn’t have it any other way.

Until next time…

What’s the Rush?ย 

I was asked what are my thoughts on marriage and rushing into marriage after reading two articles sent to me. I will share the links to these two articles at the end of this post. Are you ready for my two cents? Of course you are, let’s do this!

Marriage. It’s beautiful. It’s great and it can be fulfilling. That is, if you are with the right person. Studies have shown that there are millions of people who have been married more than once due to a variety of different reasons including, but not limited to: infidelity, adultery, incompatibility, lack of love, unhappiness, abuse and financial strain. Adding to that, thousands of women and men file for divorce each and every day. How sad.

I for one want everyone to be happy with who they are and who they are with. We all deserve that much don’t we? That is why in my personal opinion, rushing into marriage is not a good idea. Many mistakenly marry out of lust instead of love and they don’t realize it until it’s too late. There is a difference between the two you know… 

I could have been married several times, but I knew that we weren’t meant to be together. No matter how much that person loves you (and these men loved and cared for me deeply), if you don’t love them the same way back, you are hurting them and setting you both up for marital failure. Not to mention, it’s unfair to the other person. After all they, just like you and I, deserve to be with someone who will love them and accept them just the same.

I personally wouldn’t want to be married more than once or divorced at anytime in my life, although I know it does and can happen. I just know that for me, I prefer to take my time when it comes to marriage because only then would I be able to find the right person who is meant to be with me and only me for a lifetime. Now with all that being said, why on earth would I rush to get married?

So there you have it. That is my two cents. You can find the articles I referenced here and here. Until next time…