Good Evening Good People! How is everyone? I hope to find each of you doing well.
I’ve been meaning to blog about this for a while now and have finally had the chance to do so. If you’ve been on Instagram, Facebook or watched the news back in May, you probably know what I’m talking about. It’s been viewed over 50 million times on a number of social media platforms! 😱
If you haven’t seen it, don’t worry. I’m going to post a YouTube clip.
In May 2019 for Fashion Week in Vienna, Austria, a group of Nigerian women showed up and showed out for the Colors of Africa runway show. What made these women go viral was the realness of themselves and their bodies. Healthy real women who have shown millions of people around the world how to love the body you are in and of course, how to move and have fun.
When you see the clip, notice the smiles on their faces and how the “Mama” of the group moves in the beginning. She’s in the blue. I love all the traditional clothing, dancing and cultural elements. The crowd was eating it up.
Seeing this touches the root of my heart in so many ways since I am mostly Nigerian myself. It’s amazing how such rhythmic moves are still ingrained in many of us African Americans. It’s in the blood. Dancing like this just comes easy to me. 🙏🏽❤️🤗
Click here to see these ladies in action. I’ll go ahead and warn you, the song is catchy.
Until next time…
We live in a world where the definition of beauty is warped and I mean severely warped. I often blog about Black people and the Black experience because well, I’m Black. Hear goes nothing.
Due to slavery and its long-lasting stereotypical effects, many Black women struggle to find themselves beautiful. Some feel that in order to be seen as beautiful and acceptable, they must have straight hair, a narrow nose, thin lips, light skin or long hair. I have no such features except the long hair. Broad features are just as beautiful.
This sad and unfortunate way of thinking has lead some to go to drastic measures to achieve such looks. How sad.
I’ve had some well-meaning Black women over the years tell me that in order for me to be more acceptable, I need to straighten my hair more often. Well, here’s the thing: I’m going to straighten my hair only when I feel like it. Not because I want to be accepted. If I find my natural hair acceptable, that’s all that matters.
The last time I wore my hair straight was six years ago after cutting six inches off. Even then I didn’t like it that much because I prefer my hair in its natural state. To each it’s own. 🙃
Not too long ago, I chopped my hair off again and I love it. Did I consider the thoughts and opinions of others? Nah. It’s my hair. I know how to keep my hair professional while wearing it in its natural state. 🤷🏽♀️
In all seriousness good people, I want you to ask yourself, who really has the right to define if you are beautiful? I’ll go ahead and tell you, no one but you.
Until next time…
I recently stumbled across one of Anneka McLean’s videos on YouTube and I felt compelled to blog about her. I honestly never heard of her until I clicked on one of her videos. In this particular video, she talked about how she was often mocked and made fun of for having full lips. A feature of hers that stands out when you first look at her, but in a good way.
I appreciated the fact that even though she was made fun of for having full lips, she never felt self-conscious or ashamed of it. In fact, she embraced it.
As a woman with full lips, I love my lips. Whenever I wear lipstick or any type of glossy lip color, I get loads of compliments. The same can be said for Anneka. Her lips in my personal opinion is her best feature and I think she is beautiful. Her smile is even more beautiful if you ask me.
Anneka, like so many other Black women like myself, is not afraid to tout her pout with lip colors that were once frowned upon for Black women. Anneka takes pride in her looks, like we all should, and I think it’s extremely important that we don’t make fun of other people’s physical characteristics. The definition of beauty is not just narrow, it’s broad too.
Until next time…
You see that number? That’s my current weight good people. I’m now 148 lbs! I’m no longer 164 lbs!!! I dropped quite a bit early on just by cutting down my soda intake to once a week. I’m going to assume that was “water weight” that I lost at first. I’ll take it because it definitely wasn’t helping my PCOS!
Changing my eating habits has been the hardest struggle, but I’m determined to feed and treat my body much better. Since I’ve eliminated most of my soda intake, the bumps and discoloration from drinking way too many sodas has almost cleared up around my neck and chin area. My neck is also becoming more defined as I continue to lose weight. Try not to get freaked out by my open eyes lol…
My Gazelle has been a lifesaver too because I can work out in my own home. It doesn’t put a strain on my bowed legs and it has helped to tone my arms and legs. Soon, I’ll be focusing on shaping them. And for the ladies with much booty in the back like myself, it tones and lifts that too. Hey Hey!
Note: Please don’t ask me, why am I standing so wide? I’m bowed legged so this is how I stand when my legs are “closed”. I can’t help it. My knees and thighs don’t touch. 😩
If you been struggling with trying to eat healthy and staying healthy, start a friendly competition with your family or friends. That’s what got me started. Once you get started, please don’t stop. I’m rooting for you and I hope you are rooting for yourself too. You got this! 💪🏾😉
Until next time…
Hey, Hey, Hey! This blogger has to talk a little smack this evening to her kinfolks that live thousands of miles away. Do you remember our get fit the quickest challenge? The very same challenge where my kinfolks waited two weeks to tell me about? Well ah, I’ve been dropping my weight and I’m happy to report that my jawline is now becoming more visible again! Take a look for yourself. Ignore my “barely there” forehead. Sheesh! 😜
All I have to do is lose a little more weight and my jawline will be on display again! 👌🏾 I’m about to start working out more regular so I can tone and firm my neck and my body. Genetics! 🙌🏾🙏🏾🙌🏾 When I started out, I was at 164 lbs. My goal weight is to get down to 135 lbs which is good for my 5’4 and 1/2 frame. I’m not going down to 120 lbs so my doctor can forget it. Not happening. I feel so good I can’t help but to smile!
Before I end this post, I have to show off my short ponytail puff. It has made working out much easier and it’s been a trooper. I don’t have all that length and weight from my hair weighing me down anymore and I love it! 🙌🏾 I can get used to this. Just look at it. Ain’t it cute? Lmboooooooo! 😍
Alright kinfolks, y’all better come on ’cause Nita is getting close to her goal weight. Bring 👏🏾 It 👏🏾 On 👏🏾! I’m ready for you baby! I’m so ready! 💪🏾😍😘
Until next time…
I was asked, why am I expressing such a dislike for the “standard” BMI index? Because it’s unrealistic for Black women like myself who are well-endowed in the hips, thighs and buttocks area. Keep reading because I’ll be sharing a few more pictures at the end of my post to support my stance.
I can’t tell you how many doctors have “urged” me to get down to a “healthy” weight of 120-135 lbs because they are going by the standard BMI index. In all honesty, I would look sickly if I got down to that size. I would never attempt to get down to that size and I don’t care how many doctors “urge” me to. You can have curves, hips and round buttocks and still be healthy too!
My buttocks aren’t going anywhere because it’s genetic; it runs in my family. My thighs aren’t going anywhere because it’s genetic; it runs in my family. With me working out again, the weight in my thighs, hips and buttocks still aren’t going anywhere. They are going to get toned, tightened and lifted again which is fine by me. 👌🏾
So many women have surgery or buy weight gaining products just to get what I and so many other women were born with naturally. Surely, it can’t be that bad since so many women are working hard to build them a booty, hips and / or thighs. If they aren’t buying products to try and build it, they are buying the “parts” through surgery. To each their own. Do what makes YOU happy. 👌🏾
I stand by what I said. The BMI index is flawed when it comes to Black people because it doesn’t take into consideration the bone density of Black people and our fat deposits in our hips, thighs and buttocks area. That alone on average will make us weigh 10-20 lbs more depending on the person.
Here are a few more Black women to support my stance that the BMI index is flawed. Due to their BMI index, they were urged to lose weight on more than one occasion despite being active and healthy. Please don’t sexualize the pictures. These women in my opinion are healthy and are not overweight.
You see what I mean? Until next time…
I honestly can’t understand how so many people can go through life with their friends and social circles all the same color. How close-minded and insecure. I say insecure because most people have trouble connecting with someone of a different race other than them. They also lack confidence because it’s “safe” for them to surround themselves with their own.
I can’t tell you how many people have tried to “level” with me by talking about music. I always smile and converse back while being so glad I can easily relate and conversate with people on deeper matters other than music. 👀🤦🏾♀️🙄
When you have friends of different nationalities, it broadens your world. I love learning about different nationalities and their cultures because it’s so fascinating to me. African, Native American and Hispanic / Latin cultures are the biggest and most diverse cultures that exist. The history of the people, who they are, where they came from and how they came to be is both inspiring and enlighting.
So much has been used from these cultures in regards to inventions, music, food and entertainment just to name a few. 🌎🌏🌍 You can’t get such knowledge if all your friends are of the same color or nationality.
I challenge you to broaden your horizons and get to know people from a different ethnic background other than yours. Be confident in yourself and please, speaking as a person of color, steer clear of stereotypical topics. Anyone can discuss a superficial topic like music or food. To us people of color, just as an FYI, you come off as insecure and shallow when you choose to discuss stereotypical topics. Just saying…🤷🏾♀️
Until next time…