Beauty and Race

Warning: This post contains strong images and unfiltered truths.

For centuries, yes even now, Black physical features have been considered unattractive or “ugly.” Broad noses, full lips, round hips and round buttocks were a long standing source of mockery geared towards Black people. If you were to take a look back at Black caricatures, it typically featured oversized lips, bigger than broader noses, our buttocks were made to look more oversized than what it really was and of course, we can’t forget the “Black” face.

Keep reading because I’m going to post a snippet of Coal Black and de Sebben Dwarfs at the end. Smh at the spelling. They knew what they were doing…

As a Black woman, and woman of color, I have to wonder why such caricature features were thrust into the limelight as “ugly“, yet at the very same time, you had a lot of racist White men running to sleep with Black women. Society likes to keep that dark dirty secret hidden, but Black people know better. Ask any Black person to pull out pictures of their past relatives and you will unfortunately see products of racist interracial relationships. It was painfully evident in my Grandfather and on his side of the family.

Say what you want, but such disgusting and racist behavior was used and is still used to lower the self-esteem of Black people and in a lot of cases, it has worked. A lot of Black people have been getting surgery to make their Black nose more European, others have lightened their skin, and some have even reduced the size of lips. Some Black women have even opted to wear their hair straight because society says Afro-textured hair is ugly or “unprofessional.” How sad.

On the flip side, you have White women getting lip injections to try and mimic the full lips typically found in Black women. Others have rushed to get butt injections or implants because now it seems that having round buttocks and hips is sexy and attractive. I got news for you, it always has been. I know within my own family there were racist and prejudiced White men who foamed all out the mouths at stacked women like my Mom, aunts and her cousins when they were growing up in the 50’s and 60’s. You won’t find too many White Grandfathers admitting that. Yes, I said it.

I love my Black features, especially my full lips because they go perfectly with my medium length eye lashes and my large eye folds. Whenever I’m dressed up for a night out on the town, you’d be surprised how many White business men approach me. Some I can tell have a “Black” fetish that they want to live out, but Anita is not going to be a Jezebel experience for no man. Sadly, some Black women have because they crave the approval of White men. How sad.

Black people have been the largest target of hatred and mockery when it comes to our physical characteristics which has in turn, affected the self-esteem of millions of Black people around the world. That has to change. The cycle must be broken. Beauty is not found within one race, but all races. My Black is beautiful and your (insert race) is beautiful too!

Click here for a brief snippet of Coal Black and de Sebben Dwarfs.

Until next time…

Nice Try Rosie

Roseanne Barr had her show axed Monday after posting another racist and insensitive tweet about a person of color. She was called out in the past by her ex-husband Tom Arnold for her racially charged tweets, but with all that being said, I can’t help but to see her as a plum fool. Why do I say that? Here’s why. The president of ABC Entertainment (where her Roseanne reboot was aired) is an African American woman by the name of Channing Dungey. Guess who axed Roseanne Barr’s show within 11 hours after her tweet? You guessed it…

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Roseanne proved to be her own worst enemy and she freely provided her own rope to hang herself when she posted her most recent disgusting tweet. How DUMB is that? The woman who has an immense amount of power and control over not only you, but also your show happens to be a woman of color and you do something as foolish as that? I tell you it’s true, racist and prejudiced people are some of the most dumbest people in the world.

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Channing Dungey didn’t think twice about axing Roseanne’s show and she has millions of people who support her decision. Not only that, she is being praised for her swift decision. With all that being said, you can’t help but to feel bad for the innocent cast members who got caught up in Roseanne’s foolishness. I found it hilarious how her cast members quickly denounced Roseanne Barr and distanced themselves from her. Smart, very smart.

Roseanne is being verbally dragged all over the internet and the news by both fans and celebrities, but that didn’t stop her from stooping to a new low by blaming the medication Ambien for her actions. Nice try. Ambien responded back with the quickness that racism is not a side effect of their medication! It’s funny how racist and prejudiced people backtrack when they are called out by the masses. Racist and prejudiced
individuals tend to forget that people of color now have a strong voice. Many hold prominent positions and so your actions will come with serious consequences and repercussions.

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Roseanne’s rise and fall is proof that what you say or do can come back to bite you with a vengeance. She should’ve thought twice before she sent that tweet…

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Until next time…

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Novel Progress 

Mercy, mercy me! This writer is beyond tired. I would say I’m exhausted, but that would be an understatement. With everything I have going on right now, I have to put in some serious overtime when I do get the chance to write. Otherwise, I’ll end up falling behind and ain’t nobody got time for that.

My blog won’t be as active for the next two and a half weeks because I’m pushing really hard to get my second novel done. I’m brainstorming book covers at the moment since I’ve already come up with a title. You’ll have to wait a bit before I share it with you. I can’t tell you that just yet…

Until then, I leave you with my tired strained eyes LOL. I’m sure don’t nobody wanna see this black bonnet of mine, but you gone see it today! Don’t be hating on it either! My silk bonnet is what keeps all my hair protected and healthy. Now gone and get YOU one! LMBO…

Until next time…be safe, stay well and keep writing folks! Your story deserves to be heard! 

Good Riddance 

Whoo! Those faux locs are gone! Outta here! Gone bye bye! Buh Bye! 

Let me tell you, I don’t miss ’em one bit! My scalp was about to suffocate! I thought I was going to pass out once I felt that cool air hit my scalp again KMSL! My hair has been showing out and growing like weeds again. Especially the front crown of my hair. That’s where its really wavy and no matter how much I trim it back or brush it back, it just keeps coming back. 

It’s nice seeing you again my lovely bouquet of tresses. The kinky, the wavy, the curly and the straight. Each one of you represents a part of my ancestry. Although there are times where I wished I had just ONE texture instead of four. It would make my life so much easier. Just being honest… 

Until next time…wear your hair how you wanna wear it. Just make sure you wear it proudly! 

Word Counts 

WHO in the world counts words??? If you are a writer, you do. Why? Because depending on what you are aiming to write, your word count largely depends on it. For writers, the word length of your story can fall within a short story, a novelette, a novella or even a novel. 

I am working on my second novel now and I can tell you honestly that when I penned my first novel Poka City Blues, I did not pay attention to the word count until I completely typed the full story. The editing came a little later. Only then was when I really noticed it. I was amazed when I typed up my first draft because I did not realize how much I had written over a period of three months. I was too focused on making sure that my story made sense and that it flowed well. A word count was the furthest thing from my mind LOL. Hey, I am just being honest. 

Seeing that I like to write, writing a novel does not phase me. As a matter of fact, I prefer to pen novels. I guess what really helps me is my ability to type fast and how once I get a story or theme in mind, I let my fingers lead me. Any writer will tell you, once those creative juices start to flow, you hone in on it. I seem to get an adrenaline rush from mine KMSL! 

So go on, tell your story and do not let a word count hold you back. If anything, embrace it because in my opinion, a writing challenge or any challenge makes you a better / stronger person. 

Until next time… 

Pen It! 

If you have a story you want to tell, go on and pen it. It has been said that writing can be a bit tricky at times because you have to know what subjects to write about and which subjects to steer clear from. I do not necessarily agree with that notion because to me, that creates borders around a writer’s creativity. A good story in my opinion aims at the heart and mind of a reader so they can connect at all levels with the story that lies in the palm of their hands. To do that, you may  have to step out of the “safe zone.” 

I will admit, it can be challenging at times to decipher what tough subject to write about and how to write it. The last thing you want to do is offend a reader, but at the same time you do want the reader to “get the point” so to speak. To write a good story, you should not feel like you have to “tip toe” around certain areas or topics. Otherwise, why would you even bother to write? Writing for me involves writing about what moves me. Yes, I want you to laugh, cry and even get mad about the things I write, but at the same time, I want you to be moved and even challenged by the things I write. 

Penning a good story is not done solely to entertain a reader, but to also educate the reader in areas they may have little to no knowledge of. So go on, pen that amazing story of yours and write like there is no tomorrow! You and your future readers will be glad you did. 

Until next time… 

All That’s Left 

Good Evening and Happy Thursday to you! Guess what? Tomorrow’s Friday! I have been waiting on Friday and you probably have too. This has been a very busy week for me because I’ve been away training with my job, but it hasn’t been too busy to keep me or prevent me from doing any writing. Remember, I live by and operate by the 60/40 rule. If you don’t know what I’m referring to, just search for it on my blog. You’ll see what I mean. 

As an independent writer, one of the best feelings in the world is when you sell one of your books. Excitement and glee runs all through you and you can’t wait to ship your book out. You have to almost hold yourself back from racing to the post office. All I have is a few books left and I hope to be able to ship out more. That is, considering I get more book orders for more. 

Even if I don’t sell any more books for a while, I did good with the amount of books I have sold thus far. To say that I am honored and amazed would be an understatement. Words cannot express how grateful I am and how elated I am. I have no doubt (yes I’m claiming it) that I will sell all that’s left. I will go a bit further and say I will sell even more.  

Until next time….