It is so easy for us as humans to find a reason to complain. We are all guilty of displaying this less than desirable trait at some point in our lives; some more than others. Usually when any one of us complains it is out of anger or frustration regarding something that we have deemed as unfair, unjust or harsh. Think about that for a second. Granted, in some cases one may have a legitimate cause to complain, but then there are those cases where one has no basis to complain.
Some individuals have a habit of complaining about almost every little thing. They always seem to gripe about someone or something. These individuals see problems in almost everything and find faults with just about everyone or everything. For these types of individuals, they unfortunately see the negative in almost every situation and in some cases they see most people as the problem.
I was raised to think twice before I complain because it may not be a cause for a complaint. Nine times out of ten I do not have a valid reason for me to complain which is why I rarely if ever complain. Some things you just need to keep to yourself which is why I am tight-lipped about almost everything. My tough as nails Father’s motto was, “Don’t complain unless you really have a reason to.” The ROCK in our family, my Mother, had a rhyming saying that went like this, “Think twice before you complain and then ask yourself what is there to gain?”
Some of us compared to others are extremely fortunate even if we may only have a little. There are millions of people going without food, water and shelter and if you ask me, they have a bona fide reason to complain. Yet, if you had the chance to meet some of them like I have, they hardly ever complain. They are too busy trying to survive while trying to help others. Complaining is the last thing on their minds.
At the end of the day, it is all about perception and how we view things. If we took the time to think twice before ever complaining, we would see that most of our causes for complaint are null and void.
Until next time…
I have always said that my one dream job is to be a full-time writer. Although I am not a full-time writer at this time, I take my responsibility as a writer seriously. Writing, for the most part, provides me the opportunity to write stories that will not only entertain, but also impact lives. When someone stumbles across my blog or reads one of my books, I want them to be enlightened by what they have read. I want my blog and books to leave a footprint on their minds rather than fade like the wind after they have read it. If my blog posts or books fade from a readers mind immediately after they have read it, then I am not doing my job as a writer.
A sincere hope of mine is that my blog and/or books will inspire others to write. The world needs more writers who are not afraid to write from their hearts or speak their raw truths. No sugar coating is allowed in my writing style no matter how uncomfortable it may be at times. The way I see it is this: The story you have inside you may inspire a life or save a life. No one can tell your story but you. So why should I be ashamed of the things that I write? I write for a purpose and I write what I write on purpose.
Until next time…
Good Morning and Hello to you all!
On behalf of this Sunday’s blog post, I wanted to take the time out to reflect on my journey as a writer. For as long as I can remember, I have always enjoyed writing. I love being alone with my own thoughts and I enjoy spinning those thoughts into intriguing stories. When I first set out to write my debut novel entitled Poka City Blues, I had no idea where that journey would lead me. I have always wanted to pen a story about my parents’ life because to me they are such amazing human beings. My mother and father has conquered many storms, overcame a number of tragedies and they have a will power that is unmatched. I was excited to sit down and write Poka City Blues, but I did not expect the range of emotions that would eventually come with it.
Writing is one of the few things in life that brings me great happiness, but I soon learned that when you are writing a story that is personal and close to your heart, that it can also lead to bouts of depression. I have no shame in admitting that I cried a number of times and experienced a range of moods as I wrote Poka City Blues. Why? Because I knew that some of the things I was writing about were in fact true. At times I was conflicted and there were times where I became flat out angry. Nevertheless, I kept on writing because this was a story I felt I needed to tell.
Fast forward to a year and a half later and I have no regrets in regards to my writing journey. I have received a number of emails from readers who were inspired by Poka City Blues, I have met a number of fellow writers, authors, poets and bloggers who I have been able to relate to and I have been on a roll with my writing. I am about to publish my second short story entitled Underneath the Pecan Tree and I could not be happier. The best advice I was given as a child was to keep on writing because I was often told that I never know where that journey may lead me.
I love writing, I absolutely love being a writer and this is a journey that I hope will never end.
Until next time…
We live in a world where most people are afraid to be themselves. They feel pressured to fit in because of the fear of being left out. Instead of being the person they truly are on the inside, they pretend to be this other person on the outside. Why do they do that? The answer is simple. They want to fit in. Societies as a whole has grown accustomed to judging people and making people feel inadequate or unworthy if they do not think, dress or act a certain way. Some can be brutal. Just imagine the number of people who have spent or shall I say wasted their lives striving or trying to be something they are not. I myself cannot imagine living a life with that much of regret.
I find it alarming how so many people are changing their outward appearances just so they could look like this person, that person or the next person. News Flash! Being someone other than yourself is not only pretending, but it is lying. One of the worst things a person can do is lie to themselves. If a certain individual or group of people cannot accept YOU for being YOU, take that as a hint that they are not meant for you. There is no need for you to change who you are because I guarantee you they are not going to change for you. Living your life and being who you are is one of the greatest joys in life. Life is much more enjoyable when you are freely being yourself. I wake up every morning just being me and let me tell you, I would not have it any other way. When I wake up every morning, I do not think about how I can fit into this group or that group. I wake up every morning striving to be the best person I can be while being a positive influence on others.
Individuality is amazing because there is so much of beauty in being different! Be you because you are Be-You-Tiful!
Until next time….
I wanted to take this time out to thank Emma Woods for nominating me for the One Lovely Blog Award. As a fellow blogger I can tell you that her blog is not only entertaining, but it is an absolute thrill to follow. I’ve never won an award in my life, but I must admit that any time I am nominated for an award I get this huge boost to my morale. Any time your work is recognized it gives you the motivation to keep doing what you are doing plus it makes the pursuit of your dreams even more meaningful. As with any nomination there are rules and they are as follows:
1. Thank the person who nominated you and provide a link to their blog.
2. Display the award on your post.
3. List 7 facts about yourself.
4. Nominate 7 bloggers and let them know you have nominated them.
*Please note that the nominees are not obligated to participate in this award nomination*
So, you want to know 7 interesting facts about yours truly? Here goes nothing!
1. I was born in Charleston, South Carolina.
2. I spent my early childhood in Florida.
3. I am a survivor of childhood bullying.
4. I used to be a habitual nail biter.
5. I have a Bachelor’s degree in Health Administration and a minor in Health Education.
6. I love making jewelry as much as I love writing.
7. My favorite color is turquoise.
Who are my 7 nominees? Take a gander below:
1. Write Now and Later
2. Words from Emma Woods
3. Color Me In Cyanide and Cherry
4. Live to Write-Write to Live
5. Interesting Literature
6. Optional Poetry
7. Between the Beats
All the best to everyone! Stay writing!!