Jezebel

I’ve been on the fence about whether or not I should discuss the Jezebel stereotype, but I feel like I must even though it’s explicit in nature. I love blogging about writing and books, but as a Black woman, I also like to blog about Black history facts and the Black experience.

Warning ⚠: Some images may be disturbing.

When it comes to the Jezebel stereotype, the depths of this stereotype is rooted in both racism and sexual violence. To make a long history lesson short, the Jezebel stereotype was created by White men to justify their raping of Black women. In other words, this stereotype claims that Black women are promiscuous and hypersexual so they can’t be raped.

Many today still see Black women as promiscuous, “easy” and “wild” when it comes down to sex. I can remember one of my White professors sharing stories of other White men who admitted that they envied their forefathers. What exactly were they envying? The raping of Black women and having multiple Black women as bed wenches. How disturbing, deviant and sad.

What’s even sadder is the unfortunate fact that some Black women have allowed themselves to be bedded by some of these White men who believe in or base their opinions of Black women off of the Jezebel stereotype.

I can tell you the few Black women who allowed themselves to be made into a fool by some of these White men definitely had low self-esteem. Sadly, they also craved the approval, acceptance and attention of White men. How tragic, desperate and unfortunate.

As a Black woman, I can spot them a mile away before they even try to come in my face when I’m dressed up and out on the town. Some of them walk around as if they are God’s greatest gift and that I should fall all over them or at their feet. Anita aka BookingAnita will NOT stoop to such a low level.

I wish that there was a way to do away with this Jezebel stereotype, but unfortunately, it will always exist. Just know that the majority of Black women back then and now aren’t like that.

If you think I’m hitting you with some hard-hitting Black history facts now, you just wait until next month, Black History month.

Until next time…

The Angry Black Woman 

The Angry Black Woman. I’m sure many of us have heard this metaphor before. As a Black woman, I can relate to some of the recent articles publishedThe Angry Black Woman metaphor (for those of you who may not know) is commonly used to describe Black women as loud, angry, argumentative and defensive. How sad seeing how most Black women are actually the complete opposite. The Angry Black Woman is just another negative stereotype being perpetuated as true.

I will never forget an experiment that was shown in my Sociology class in college. Six women from different racial backgrounds were lined up in a video and given several statements to read out loud in the same tone of voice. When a group of 120 surveyors were asked who they thought were defensive, 97% picked the Black woman. When asked why, they stated it’s because the Black woman looked and sounded angry. Unbelievable.

I can’t tell you how many times I myself have made a statement or suggestion within the workplace and it was taken the wrong way. I always get so tickled when someone White makes the same or almost similar statement as I have and it’s well received or applauded. Go figure, yet its to be expected. So many Black women’s confidence or directness gets mistaken for defensiveness and I find that absolutely ridiculous.

One thing I will never do is apologize for the woman that I am and I will not be made to feel less than someone else just because my skin happens to be darker. Just because my personality happens to be different from yours, that does not mean I am defensive or argumentative. Besides, there are angry, defensive women in all races, not just Black.

Until next time… 

Black Female Problems 

I know some people don’t mean any harm, but c’mon… 

Allow this writer to deviate for just a moment. There was a picture floating around of me (not anymore now that I had it removed) where I had allowed my hair to grow really long. I had my hair blown out and flat ironed straight. Every single time this writer allows her hair to grow really long and straightens it, I have to hear or read such shameful back handed comments such as:

Omgosh she’s so cute to be Black.

You’re so pretty for a Black girl.

I’m not really attracted to Black women, but you’re beautiful. 

That’s not her hair, it’s a weave!

If her hair is really that long, she’s got to be mixed. 

Stop saying she’s Black, she’s obviously half Dominican. Black women don’t look like that. 

As a Black woman, comments like that are not amusing whatsoever. Statements like that insinuates that Black women can’t be pretty and that only mixed Black women can be attractive. Not only that, to assume that my hair is a weave or that my hair only grows long because people assume I’m mixed also insinuates that Black women can’t grow long hair. Take it from this writer, when you give a compliment leave race out of it. There’s beauty in all of us and that is an undeniable fact. 

Until next time…keep on writing! 

Stop It. 

This writer needs to vent a little so bear with me. You’re not going to believe this. 

I stumbled across an article recently where a group of non-Black women refused to believe that Black women can grow long hair. Are you serious? C’mon now, that’s just ignorant. Believe it or not, you have many Black women (including myself) whose hair can grow very long and is long. Some keep it under wraps, some choose to keep their hair short and some choose to wear weaves. All the pictures I’m going to post tonight are of Black women and their own natural hair. 

Just to prove a point, I’m going to stay away from cutting or trimming my hair until the first of January 2018. I’m going to keep my hair in protective styles like I always do and and when January comes, I’ll post a pic of it straighten. I just love to prove people wrong. I get this warm cozy feeling inside Lmbo! Seriously though, what it all boils down to is taking care of your hair and nurturing your scalp. Yes, it’s that simple. 

Black women can’t grow hair or long hair?!?! Please! Just you watch and see….

Until next time… 

Nappy?! 

A few weeks ago, I saw a documentary on Black women and natural hair. As I watched this particular documentary unfold, there was one part of me that felt proud, but then there was the other part of me that felt a little disturbed. I was happy to see more Black women embracing their own natural hair, but I was bothered by the sheer number of Black women who referred to Black natural hair as ugly and “nappy.” 

Here is the deal, regardless of your hair type or texture, if you do not take care of it your hair will get “nappy” or shall I say tangled. Often times the word “nappy” is referred to Black or African textured hair when in fact, “nappy” hair can occur in all races and ethnic groups. I could not help but to shake my head as I saw some Black women refer to their own natural hair or Black women with natural hair as ugly. It was bad enough that they called it “nappy.” SMH… 

There was one group of Black women who proudly stated they would “rock a weave” before they would rock their own natural hair. Oh. My. Goodness. I do not believe they realized just how absurb they sounded when they made such a statement. So you mean to tell me that you would spend hundreds to thousands of dollars to wear synthetic hair or someone else’s hair before you would wear your own?! Please go sit down and face the wall. Right now! Do not come out until I tell you to. Maybe next time you will learn not to say such a self-hating thing. 

I for one have natural hair as I discussed previously on my blog, and I love every multi texture that is scattered across my head. If you choose to wear your hair relaxed or natural, the choice is yours. I am quite sure you are beautiful either way. Just love your hair, take care of it and nurture it because your hair is a beautiful extension of you. Black or African textured is not ugly or “nappy.” It is different, but it is far from being ugly or “nappy.” 

Until next time…