Chester Thompson

Chester Thompson, an ex-cop from Syracuse, received a slap on his wrist for raping Maleatra Montanez in her own home. She had called the police to report her daughter missing, but instead of helping her, Chester rapes her.

By his and her own admission, he told this anxious mother who was desperately looking for her child that “her lips look like it could really hold a p*nis and that she had a nice butt.” How disgusting, hurtful and disrespectful!

Black cops who committed the same disgusting crime against White women got sentenced to harsh time, but Chester only got three years probation.

What saddens me about this swept underneath the rug case is this: When a Black woman is raped by a White man, she is not seen as credible or believable.

A part of me can’t help but to think about the (once) long standing law that a Black woman couldn’t be raped by a White man because she wasn’t considered to be “human.”

I can tell you personally that you do have some White cops and government officials who sexually harass Black women. They have the confidence to do so because of two things: One, their badge or title and Two, the undeniable fact that most people will not believe that a White man of their position harassed or raped a Black woman. Lord have mercy.

Chester Thompson is a despicable vile rapist who should’ve received more than probation for what he did to Maleatra Montanez. Rapists, regardless of their race, belong in jail. Period.

Until next time…

Ladies, Don’t You…

Ladies, don’t you hate it when a man whose married or in a relationship tries to hit on you? The men with a lot of money are the worst ones! I don’t care how big your house is, how many zeroes and commas you have in your bank account or how you “think” you can make me happy. If you are married or in a relationship, Anita DON’T want you. I DON’T care about all your material possessions…🙄

They got a wife / significant other and / or kids at home and they are out here chasing women. It’s a shame whenever I get dressed up and go out, I have to deal with married or “committed” men thirsting after me. Sir, go home and be with your wife / significant other. Be there for your kids sir. Anita is not a home wrecker sir. Anita has never been second best to a man sir. Being the “other woman” is NOT my thing sir. 🙅🏾‍♀️Be gone sir…👋🏾

Ladies, if you’ve ever contemplated dating or “messing around” with a married man or a man in a relationship, DON’T do it. You’re asking for trouble. I’ve seen it happen to so many women. Some women really be out here crying / fussing over a man who they know is married or in relationship. He DON’T belong to you madam! Whatchu cryin’ for? You allowed yourself to get played like a fiddle madam. 🤷🏾‍♀️

Fooling around with married or “committed” men???

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That Too

I was asked after my PCOS Awareness post if I struggle with weight and heart issues. Yes, I most certainly do. After seeing my doctor three weeks ago, I was urged to lose some weight because I was considered overweight based on my BMI. At 5’4 and 1/2, I weighed 160 lbs at the time. I now weigh 148 lbs. My doctor wants me at 120 lbs, but that’s not going to happen. 130 lbs is the lowest I’ll go because anything lower than that might make me look sickly. 🙅🏾‍♀️👀

As far as my heart, PCOS has affected my mitral valve prolapse which is mild to severe. I do find myself struggling with excessive fatigue, palpitations, chest pain and shortness of breath which can be a pain at times. Still, I push through it because I have a life to live, responsibilities to take care of and dreams to chase. Diet, exercise and medication has been a big help to me because it keeps me balanced for the most part. 👌🏾

PCOS no doubt affects certain parts of my life, but it doesn’t affect my outlook on life.

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For the Small-Boned Women

Ugh, I’m about to rant. You know it’s coming so get ready because it happened (again). This time I was with my cousins…

Having small bones can be so frustrating at times. For me, that frustration comes into play whenever I’m out shopping for unique pieces of jewelry. My cousins and friends can walk into any store and find a unique ring with no problem, but when it comes to me, I can’t! My fingers are short, thin and small. My style is more eclectic, cultural and neo-soul. My jewelry taste is very different / unique…

Unlike my cousins and friends, I can’t just pick out a unique piece of jewelry in any store because it won’t fit. The “small” rings will just slide right off my fingers. The “small” toe rings will slide right off my toes. The “small” bracelets will slide right off my wrist. Why? Just why? C’mon now… 😤😖😩

To all the jewelry makers out there, don’t forget about the women with small bones. We small-boned women go through it sometimes. Your average “small” rings, toe rings and bracelets won’t fit us. We want to be able to buy a ring, toe ring or bracelet right out of the store too without it sliding off. Keep us in mind more often and if you can, make your “small” a little bit smaller.

Signed,

BookingAnita aka Lil Bit (my family calls me Lil Bit 😉)

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Jane Elliott

Jane Elliott is a retired third grade school teacher, activist, speaker and traveling educator. She became world famous for her Blue Eyes Brown Eyes experiment after Martin Luther King Jr. was assassinated. What makes Jane so different from other White activists is her ability to trigger gut-wrenching emotions out of her White counterparts. Something that other White activists aim to do, but can never do. You know I’m going to post video links of her in action so keep reading…

Through a number of tough exercises and experiments, Jane forces White individuals (both young and old) to experience the same feelings and emotions that Black people frequently experience in regards to racism and prejudice. Her methods are raw and many break down quickly which is exactly what Jane wants them to do. Why? Because in an experiment that causes both men and women to breakdown, she proves the valid point that if an individual can’t handle being treated in such a way for less than a day, imagine having to deal with such treatment for a lifetime.

As a Black woman I, like so many other Black women and men, was taught at an early age to be strong and to never breakdown or buckle when it comes to racism and prejudice. Why? Because our parents knew of the things we would soon encounter and they wanted to make sure that we were prepared to not only deal with it, but also face it.

What I and millions of other people around the world appreciate about Jane Elliott is her willingness and fearlessness to discuss racism, prejudice and how it disproportionately affects minorities. It’s no wonder why her presence is requested all around the world. If you want to see this phenomenal woman in action, click here, here and here.

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Michelle Thomas

If you grew up during the 90’s era like I did and are familiar with the original TGIF lineup, then you most likely know who Michelle Thomas was. For those of you who never heard of her, let me tell you a little bit about her since I recently saw a documentary on her.

Michelle Thomas was on the very popular TGIF sitcom Family Matters that aired on ABC. She played Steve Urkel’s ditzy, lovestruck girlfriend Myra Monkhouse who was just as clumsy as he was. Myra was often seen as a nuisance by Laura, Steve Urkel’s crush, but towards the end they started to get along. Although her character was an “airhead“, millions of household audiences loved her.

I always liked the theme song of Family Matters which you can listen to here. Let me go ahead and warn you, the song is catchy.

Because she was so tiny, Michelle had to wear heels in every episode because everyone towered over her. I was surprised to learn on her documentary that she dated Malcolm Jamaal Warner who played Theo on The Cosby Show. Almost every Black girl I knew had a crush on him and I was one of them LOL!

According to her friends and family, Michelle was as silly as her character Myra in real life. You can watch her here to see a brief clip of her in action.

As beautiful, funny and talented as she was, Michelle unfortunately passed away from a rare form of abdominal cancer in 1998 at the age of 30. Michelle left an impressionable mark on millions of people and even now, almost 20 years later, she is still bringing smiles and laughter to millions of people all across the world!

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Get Thee Behind Me!

Can somebody help a writer out please?! I’m up here wheezing and sneezing and I can’t hardly breathe! On top of that, my eyes won’t STOP itching! They say you’re not supposed to scratch, but c’mon! How can I not?! The itching is too intense! Besides, it felt good to scratch it even though my eye is now red, watery and puffy. I regret nothing….

Having asthma sucks! Having asthma AND bad allergies sucks even more. Get thee behind me! I ain’t got NO time for allergies. This writer has things to do and I’m not going to allow my allergies or asthma to interfere! Excuse me while my other eye begins to itch, swell and turn red. That’s what I get for staying outside too long. Get thee behind me! I ain’t playing…

Until next time…