So, What’s Next? 

Good Evening Good People! I hope that you are doing well and that you had a blast this weekend. This weekend has been very busy for me because I have been busy promoting my Facebook page. The love my page has been shown is unreal and I’m so grateful and thankful to everyone who stopped by to show my page some love. I’m completely blown away!

With that being said, likes and follows however are not enough for me. I want interactions and engagements on my page which is what I’m focusing on next. Don’t get me wrong, I do want people to like and follow my page, but at the end of the day, I have come to learn that it’s not the amount of likes and follows you have. What really matters is the number of people whose lives you have touched and inspired.

Have you checked out my new Facebook page? Click here if you haven’t. I’m looking to start some great conversations so come join the fun. I’m sure I can get the ball rolling soon enough! I’m willing to put in the effort!

Until next time… 

Black Female Problems 

I know some people don’t mean any harm, but c’mon… 

Allow this writer to deviate for just a moment. There was a picture floating around of me (not anymore now that I had it removed) where I had allowed my hair to grow really long. I had my hair blown out and flat ironed straight. Every single time this writer allows her hair to grow really long and straightens it, I have to hear or read such shameful back handed comments such as:

Omgosh she’s so cute to be Black.

You’re so pretty for a Black girl.

I’m not really attracted to Black women, but you’re beautiful. 

That’s not her hair, it’s a weave!

If her hair is really that long, she’s got to be mixed. 

Stop saying she’s Black, she’s obviously half Dominican. Black women don’t look like that. 

As a Black woman, comments like that are not amusing whatsoever. Statements like that insinuates that Black women can’t be pretty and that only mixed Black women can be attractive. Not only that, to assume that my hair is a weave or that my hair only grows long because people assume I’m mixed also insinuates that Black women can’t grow long hair. Take it from this writer, when you give a compliment leave race out of it. There’s beauty in all of us and that is an undeniable fact. 

Until next time…keep on writing! 

Moved to Tears 

It is amazing how some writers will go above and beyond to show their support for other writers. I know this is something that I do regularly because in general, I like to cheer people on. Especially if it is for the greater good. 

Today, I was personally touched when I saw the love and support from other fellow writers on Instagram. Just to see other people cheer me on touched my heart and it came pretty close to moving me to tears. I have always said that writing gives me the opportunity to express my feelings, my thoughts and my earnest desire to inspire others. Writing is not something that I take lightly nor is it something I take for granted. 

To all you readers, writers, bloggers and poets, please know that I am very thankful and grateful for your support. I love opening my emails and reading responses from you. Not only that, I enjoy reading the wonderful comments you sometimes leave on my blog posts. You may not realize it, but that truly means a lot to me as a writer. It is my hope that I can continue to be an inspiration to you and many more. May all your dreams and aspirations come true. 

Until next time… 

Get Your Own Material 

Plagiarism 

noun

the practice of taking someone else’s work or ideas and passing them off as one’s own.

synonyms: copying, infringement of copyright, piracy, theft, stealing…

Plagiarism is something that honest hardworking people look down on. It is never good to copy someone else’s work and pass it off as your own. When I first joined Twitter and Instagram to post about my upcoming writing projects, I was taken aback by the number of users getting called out by other users for piggybacking off their work or stealing their work. I thought to myself, “Who would do something as low as that?” I know the users who got called out for their plagiarism had to be embarrassed and ashamed. If it was me, I know I would. 

Imagine how I felt when I saw some of my own work and posts being copied and pasted by other users as their own. I honestly could not believe it when I first saw it. These are users with a huge following getting accolades and “likes” off of my work. Now if they had of tagged me or asked me, it would not have been such a big issue for me, but they did not. 

I truly do believe that some of these users (famous and not so famous) fool themselves into thinking that the person they copied their work(s) from would never come across it or notice it. Why? Because these apps like Twitter and Instagram has millions and millions of users. They think that we will never ever see it or even come across it. Oh how wrong they are. 

All it takes is for someone to either notice your work and alert you about it or you could be scrolling through posts one day like I did and notice it. It would be so embarrassing for me to copy and paste my original post with the date and time next to their post showing just where they got their “post” from, but I am not going to do that. I will say this though, if you ever want to use anything I post or write, please give credit where credit is due. That is the only proper thing to do. 

When your followers find out that what you are posting is not of your own, your reputation and standing would not be the same. Your followers would no doubt be disappointed in you for not being real or truthful about the things you post. Inspiration comes to us in different forms and fashion. Find your quirk and hone in on it. Do not take what is not rightfully yours and pass it off as your own. Get your own material. You got it in you, you may just have to dig deep to find it. 

Until next time… 

 

Social Media and Self Image

The media, specifically social media has distorted the minds of many individuals regarding beauty and self image. It has single-handedly caused millions of women and men to find unsubstantiated flaws within themselves and others. Due to the media’s idealistic views regarding beauty and body image, millions of women and men all across the world struggle with identity issues each and every day. Even worse, millions of adolescent girls and boys struggle with self esteem issues due to the countless unrealistic ads that are thrust in their face on a daily basis. The majority of these ads (whether they are on television or in print form) include individuals who are heavily photo shopped or laced in makeup. If you ask me, that is a far cry from being real or authentic. Still, many fail to see that basic truth and they would rather base their thoughts and views on what the media deems as beautiful or acceptable.

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As a society, we put too much stock into what the media considers as beautiful and which body types it hails as acceptable. Why do you think so many people including celebrities are rushing to get themselves filled with silicone, plastic or to have their face and bodies tucked and/or stretched? It is because they too are victims of the media and its mentality of what is beautiful and acceptable. The MEDIA KINGS know that society as a whole is very insecure and they know that society as a whole can easily be manipulated by the things they see.  One thing is for sure, the plastic surgeons are not complaining.

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Instead of trying to look like this person or act like the next person, why not accept yourself for who you are? Do not allow yourself to be warped by social media and its false standards of beauty and acceptance. You will never be happy if you do. Whether you are short or tall, big or small, find beauty within yourself and accept the person that YOU are. Beauty is not defined by one’s race, bone structure or body type. Beauty is defined by individuality and confidence and when you have that, no one not even the power of social media can come close to touching you.

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Until next time…