Dr. Barbara Ross-Lee

When you hear the last name Ross, most people think of legendary singer Diana Ross and for good reason. Diana Ross has broken down a number of barriers for African Americans in regards to her music, acting, and etc. Tonight, I’m going to introduce you to another Ross. Diana Ross’s big sister, Dr. Barbara Ross-Lee.

Dr. Barbara Ross-Lee may be the older sister of Diana Ross, but she is well-known for something else. A fierce and dynamic woman in her own right, Dr. Barbara Ross-Lee is known for her advancements in healthcare and medicine for people of color as a groundbreaking physician. She has earned a number of distinguished awards and accomplishments, one of them being the first African American and female Dean of a medical school.

Dr. Barbara Ross-Lee was first was selected as Dean of the Ohio University College of Osteopathic Medicine in 1993 and again in 2002 for the New York College of Osteopathic Medicine. Not bad for a girl who grew up in the Detroit projects.

Barbara on the right and Diana on the left.

Dr. Barbara Ross-Lee is even more well-known for her humble spirit and positive demeanor despite the amount of racism and prejudice she had to endure to get to where she is. In fact, such experiences shaped her into the phenomenonal physician that she is today.

Dr. Barbara Ross-Lee has never been prideful nor arrogant of her accomplishments and advancements in the field of medicine. How admirable and commendable of her.

At the age of 77, Dr. Barbara Ross-Lee is still working, advocating and helping to make advancements for women and people of color in the medical field. She is an ageless beauty in my opinion and in addition to that, she is smart and fierce.

Dr. Barbara Ross-Lee is a name many people within the field of medicine and Osteopathic Medicine are familiar with and for good reason. There are a number of things that are taking place today in the field of medicine because of her.

When you get some time, read more about this amazing woman. Ladies and gentlemen, you have just met the phenomenonal Dr. Barbara Ross-Lee. If you didn’t know about her before, now you do.

On a side note, I have to express how well Dr. Barbara Ross-Lee has taken care of her hair over the years. Even though she has chopped a good bit of it off, her hair is still beautiful and healthy with all that gray.

Until next time…

It’s Because…

I was asked, why am I expressing such a dislike for the “standard” BMI index? Because it’s unrealistic for Black women like myself who are well-endowed in the hips, thighs and buttocks area. Keep reading because I’ll be sharing a few more pictures at the end of my post to support my stance.

I can’t tell you how many doctors have “urged” me to get down to a “healthy” weight of 120-135 lbs because they are going by the standard BMI index. In all honesty, I would look sickly if I got down to that size. I would never attempt to get down to that size and I don’t care how many doctors “urge” me to. You can have curves, hips and round buttocks and still be healthy too!

My buttocks aren’t going anywhere because it’s genetic; it runs in my family. My thighs aren’t going anywhere because it’s genetic; it runs in my family. With me working out again, the weight in my thighs, hips and buttocks still aren’t going anywhere. They are going to get toned, tightened and lifted again which is fine by me. πŸ‘ŒπŸΎ

So many women have surgery or buy weight gaining products just to get what I and so many other women were born with naturally. Surely, it can’t be that bad since so many women are working hard to build them a booty, hips and / or thighs. If they aren’t buying products to try and build it, they are buying the “parts” through surgery. To each their own. Do what makes YOU happy. πŸ‘ŒπŸΎ

I stand by what I said. The BMI index is flawed when it comes to Black people because it doesn’t take into consideration the bone density of Black people and our fat deposits in our hips, thighs and buttocks area. That alone on average will make us weigh 10-20 lbs more depending on the person.

Here are a few more Black women to support my stance that the BMI index is flawed. Due to their BMI index, they were urged to lose weight on more than one occasion despite being active and healthy. Please don’t sexualize the pictures. These women in my opinion are healthy and are not overweight.

You see what I mean? Until next time…

Show ‘Em Alex!

A few of my friends recently told me about a woman named Alex. After I read a little bit about her, I decided to blog about her this evening. The reason why my friends “introduced” me to her is because she is my body double. We are built the exact same way! I’ll be sharing pictures from her page throughout my post. All I ask is that you don’t sexualize the pictures. This post is about body appreciation and body acceptance.

Alex Kauffman is a Black woman who is NOT ashamed of how she is built. Black women are often called “fat” because of our buttocks and hips, but that’s not always the case. Genetically, Black women have denser bones and higher fat deposits in the hips and buttocks area compared to non-Black women. That is why we typically weigh more than non-Black women.

Women like myself can relate to the looks and comments Alex sometimes get. If I’m not being told that I have a “ghetto” booty by some non-Black women, I’m getting eyes rolled at me whenever I’m at the beach. You mad about the wrong thing because I’m not paying you or your man (whose eyeballing me) any mind. I’m too busy collecting my sea shells. Some women shouldn’t be so quick to body shame other women. How can you hate on a body like this?

All I got to say is: Show ‘Em Alex! πŸ™ŒπŸΎ Thanks for showing the world that a woman can be curvy and still be beautiful! One mo’ time for the women in the back who got much back!! πŸ‘πŸΎπŸ‘πŸΎπŸ‘πŸΎ

Thick thighs saves lives! πŸ’ͺ🏾πŸ’ͺ🏾

Until next time, love the skin and the body you are in.

That Too

I was asked after my PCOS Awareness post if I struggle with weight and heart issues. Yes, I most certainly do. After seeing my doctor three weeks ago, I was urged to lose some weight because I was considered overweight based on my BMI. At 5’4 and 1/2, I weighed 160 lbs at the time. I now weigh 148 lbs. My doctor wants me at 120 lbs, but that’s not going to happen. 130 lbs is the lowest I’ll go because anything lower than that might make me look sickly. πŸ™…πŸΎβ€β™€οΈπŸ‘€

As far as my heart, PCOS has affected my mitral valve prolapse which is mild to severe. I do find myself struggling with excessive fatigue, palpitations, chest pain and shortness of breath which can be a pain at times. Still, I push through it because I have a life to live, responsibilities to take care of and dreams to chase. Diet, exercise and medication has been a big help to me because it keeps me balanced for the most part. πŸ‘ŒπŸΎ

PCOS no doubt affects certain parts of my life, but it doesn’t affect my outlook on life.

Until next time…


Ugh, this pollen has me feeling some type of way. It’s wreaking havoc on my asthma and allergies. What can a woman do to get some relief from this pollen? My eye balls itch, my skin itches, my head itches and I’m tired of sneezing and wheezing. I can hardly sleep! Where’s the rain at y’all?

Until next time, I’ll be wishing for some rain so it can wash some of this pollen away. Geezus!

Food Poisoning Sucks!

Do you wanna know what’s worser than a bad cold? Food poisoning! I would rather battle a bad cold or go toe to toe with my debilitating fear of cicadas than food poisoning. Food poisoning is always the worse for me because it wreaks havoc on my body! I’m hit with those horrible chills that runs throughout my body as I fight bouts of nausea and vomiting while hoping my head doesn’t explode from a pounding headache! Good grief!

Mercy, Mercy Me! It’s a good thing my food poisoning bouts only last for a couple of hours. I can’t imagine having to deal with food poisoning for multiple days. Those of you who do, you have my deepest sympathy.

Until next time…


Good Evening! Happy Evening! I hope that each of you are doing well. I wanted to do a quick blog post to answer a few questions about Afro-Textured hair. As a blogger, I enjoy blogging about a wide range of topics, but books and writing are my favorite.

I was asked, “What makes Afro-Textured hair so different?” The # 1 answer to that question is our curl pattern. The tighter the curl pattern, the kinkier and drier the hair is. The looser the curl pattern, the less kinkier and drier it is. Not only that, unlike all other races, our scalp doesn’t produce any oil which is why we have to oil or grease our scalp. Most of the time, I use oil instead of grease because I have multiple textures of hair.

Since I have kinky, curly, wavy and straight hair, I have to use products that will balance each texture. My hair thrives on jojoba oil, shea, mango, soy and cocoa butter. Regular deep conditioners or hair masks for Afro-Textured hair is a must. For those of you who are not familiar with how raw shea, mango, soy and cocoa butter looks like, I have posted a few pics below.

As for a few closeup pics of my hair, I have posted a few below as requested. Excuse my flakes, that is my edge control pomade that had started to flake up. I snapped these pics before washing my hair.

Until next time…