Coping with Grief

This December will mark one year since my father’s passing. I honestly never thought I would be able to go on since he passed, but with the help of God and prayer, I have been able to. Every last one of us have our own way of coping with grief, and the way we cope with our grief should be respected.

This past weekend, I cut off over half of my hair as a way to deal with my father being gone for almost a year. Some of those closest to me were shocked, others were even sad because of how long my hair was. Me? I felt two things. One, I felt a sense of relief in knowing that I was able to go on after my father fell asleep in death. Two, I felt free because I was able to let go most of my grief. My hair, like my emotions, was weighing me down and just like everything else, I had to do something about it.

My hair will grow back. It always does. It will grow back faster and longer like it always does. It’s genetic, it’s in my genes so there is no escaping it; just like my grief. My grief is still there and it’ll always be there, but it’s not as painful or as debilitating as it was before. No one can prepare you or tell you how to grieve. Only you can.

If any of you recently lost someone, you have my sincerest condolences.

Until next time…

Get Your Own Material 

Plagiarism 

noun

the practice of taking someone else’s work or ideas and passing them off as one’s own.

synonyms: copying, infringement of copyright, piracy, theft, stealing…

Plagiarism is something that honest hardworking people look down on. It is never good to copy someone else’s work and pass it off as your own. When I first joined Twitter and Instagram to post about my upcoming writing projects, I was taken aback by the number of users getting called out by other users for piggybacking off their work or stealing their work. I thought to myself, “Who would do something as low as that?” I know the users who got called out for their plagiarism had to be embarrassed and ashamed. If it was me, I know I would. 

Imagine how I felt when I saw some of my own work and posts being copied and pasted by other users as their own. I honestly could not believe it when I first saw it. These are users with a huge following getting accolades and “likes” off of my work. Now if they had of tagged me or asked me, it would not have been such a big issue for me, but they did not. 

I truly do believe that some of these users (famous and not so famous) fool themselves into thinking that the person they copied their work(s) from would never come across it or notice it. Why? Because these apps like Twitter and Instagram has millions and millions of users. They think that we will never ever see it or even come across it. Oh how wrong they are. 

All it takes is for someone to either notice your work and alert you about it or you could be scrolling through posts one day like I did and notice it. It would be so embarrassing for me to copy and paste my original post with the date and time next to their post showing just where they got their “post” from, but I am not going to do that. I will say this though, if you ever want to use anything I post or write, please give credit where credit is due. That is the only proper thing to do. 

When your followers find out that what you are posting is not of your own, your reputation and standing would not be the same. Your followers would no doubt be disappointed in you for not being real or truthful about the things you post. Inspiration comes to us in different forms and fashion. Find your quirk and hone in on it. Do not take what is not rightfully yours and pass it off as your own. Get your own material. You got it in you, you may just have to dig deep to find it. 

Until next time… 

 

What I Have Learned As An Independent Author

I have learned a lot as an independent author and let me tell you, the experience has been one heck of a roller coaster ride. I started off writing my first novel Poka City Blues as a challenge to myself to see if I had what it took to not only pen a good story but also to be a good writer. After months of brainstorming, editing and proofreading (over and over until I was red in the eyes and blue in the face), I was finally able to self-publish my debut novel five days ago all thanks to Amazon’s Kindle Direct Publishing. To get my novel noticed as an independent author, I knew that I had a lot of work ahead of me. I did not have a literary agent to help build the anticipation of my debut novel, and I did not have a team of promoters to help me get the word out about my novel. So what did that mean for me? Well, that meant I had to find ways to spread the word about my novel, and I had to think of other ways to get my novel into the hands of many readers. Sounds like a lot of work, right? It is, but that is okay because I am used to getting things done on my own and getting things done the hard way. Nothing ever comes easy for me, but that is what pushes me and motivates me.

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I have to admit that I was hoping with everything inside of me that I was going to get thousands upon thousands of downloads the first day my novel was published on Amazon, but that was just wishful thinking. Success for an independent author like myself does not happen overnight, and that is what I had to keep in mind.  Just yesterday, my novel garnered a few downloads, and I cannot put into words how exciting it was for me to see that. One or two downloads may not sound like a lot, but to me as an independent author that is huge! I still have a lot of work ahead of me to get my novel “out there” but I have the drive and the determination to do it. If you believe in something that you feel deep down inside has the potential to do something great, stick with and see it through. Giving up is the worst thing you can do.

Now Available on Amazon!
Now Available on Amazon!

To download click this link –> http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00V3MD4FM

Poka City Blues: A Sneak Peek

Once readers begin delving into Poka City Blues, they are going to be confronted with touchy issues such as rape, murder, racism and poverty. As readers delve deeper and deeper into this gritty novel, some readers may be tempted to stop reading because of the graphic details. Since this is a fictional story inspired by true life events, I want readers to see and feel exactly what the main character Sedelia once saw and felt. Why? It is because I believe that the only way readers can appreciate a heart-wrenching story such as Poka City Blues is to be as vivid and as detailed as much as possible. They say every family has a dark history or a dark past, Poka City Blues happens to be mine.

Here are a few things readers can expect to see when they download a copy of Poka City Blues:

• Sedelia’s graphic account of her mother being harassed and abused by the Ku Klux Klan
• Sedelia’s graphic account of her best friend’s rape and lynching
• Sedelia’s graphic account of her Aunt’s rape by the Ku Klux Klan
• Sedelia’s graphic account of her own rape and abuse

To download a copy of Poka City Blues, follow the link below: http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00V3MD4FM

Now Available on Amazon!
Now Available on Amazon!

What do I hope to accomplish with my debut novel Poka City Blues?

I must admit, as a debut novelist, I have a lot of hope and expectation for my novel Poka City Blues. This novel is very near and dear to me because of the strong connection I have with it. Even though it is a work of fiction, there are quite a few things in Poka City Blues that are very true. Some experiences I have taken from my own life, others I have taken from those closest to me. Poka City Blues is about making it through unimaginable adversities and being able to still smile in the end. We have all at some point in our lives experienced trials that at the time may have seem hard to get through, but with strength and determination we are able to look back and see just hard far we made it despite some of the adversities we have been through. What I hope for the most is not to gain fame, but a sense of satisfaction in knowing that my novel was able to help inspire those who have also experienced poverty, rape and or abuse.

Debut Novel Poka City Blues Coming Soon!
Poka City Blues Coming Soon!

Novel Debut

Poka City Blues is set to make its debut in just a few days. It has been a long time coming, but I am extremely excited to be able to offer this e-book online. There is a strong possibility that Poka City Blues will cause a stir, but I am absolutely fine with that notion. Poka City Blues is a fictional story that is inspired by true life events, with that being said, I had no intentions of watering down my work. Poka City Blues was born from the blood, sweat and tears of my family so the emotional triumphs of this story runs very deep.

Debut Novel Poka City Blues
Debut Novel Poka City Blues Coming Soon!

Who is A.L. Gibson?

You may be asking yourself who is A.L. Gibson? Well, I am a number of things. I am a daughter, a sister, an aunt and a friend, furthermore I am also a budding author. I have always enjoyed writing over the years, but it was never something I wanted to pursue fully until I took a chance last year to write my very first novel. At first, I was a little intimidated to take on the amount of work that goes into writing a novel, but as I started to delve into it I realized that I had a true passion for writing great stories. For me, I did not have to dig deep for a great story since I have so many people within my own family that I can draw inspiration from. However, I still wanted to come up with the perfect title, the perfect setting and the perfect character. After months of brainstorming, revising and editing I came up with the perfect debut novel Poka City Blues.

Poka City Blues is a novel that will pull and tug on just about every human emotion, but it is also a novel that will not disappoint. If you enjoy family sagas and drama then this is the book for you. Poka City Blues is about making the best out of a bad situation and overcoming insurmountable odds.

Stick around, Poka City Blues is coming soon.