Don’t Become Bitter 

Good Morning and Happy Thursday to you all! It’s been a while since this writer did an early morning post, but seeing how I received a disheartening letter from a reader, I was compelled to post early this morning. This wonderful, incredible, amazing reader is looking for some encouragement and so I’m going to give her that this morning.

It is easy to become bitter or resentful with some of the things that have taken place in our lives. It can change a person for the better or for the worse, but ultimately that largely depends on you. I’ve had every reason to become bitter and resentful and for a short while I did. I don’t think the majority of the people would have the stomach to hear or bear some of the things I personally have went through and overcome as well as some of my own family members. 

If you can think it, it happened to us. Scammed, abused, raped and that is just the beginning. I know that sexual violence and rape can send a person to the darkest depths of this earth and it can be a tough thing to recover from, but you have to find it within yourself to recover from it. Willpower is an amazing thing, it truly is.    

What helps me is having the mentality of not allowing anyone to get the best of me or to break me. Being bitter or resentful gives that person or persons a huge amount of power over you and I don’t want anyone to wield that much power over me. Yell, scream, and get mad if you want to (only for a little while) …just don’t let it get the best of you. Pray about it, talk about it and demand your right to be a happy human being. Remember, a positive mind and spirit can take you places you never thought you could go. I’ve come a long way and it wasn’t easy, but man, I am here. 

Things are getting so much better for me now (finally) and for those of you who are struggling right now, it will get better for you too. Don’t give up, don’t become bitter and above all else, don’t lose hope. I’m rooting for you all because I want everyone to do well. People have been telling me for years to write my story, and you know what, maybe someday I might. Until then, keep your head up and please, please don’t give up.

Shine on you amazing individual because you have so much of potential!

Until next time…

17 Replies to “Don’t Become Bitter ”

  1. It is certainly difficult NOT to be bitter, resentful, or hold grudges against people who hurt us. Yet that negative emotion is powerful and can actually impact our health, so like you said, you have to choose not to be a victim. Another quote I’ve heard is that you can choose to be a victor or a victim; another is you can choose to be bitter–or better.

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  2. Very inspiring post! Thank you for a great read. Everyone has experienced some sort of unpleasant experience/s in our lives and it is how we pulled through is what defines us as a person. I have a strong personality and sometimes, forgiving is hard for me to do. It takes time, and when I do, it just happens. It is in forgetting that I cannot do. I do not forget these unpleasant experiences because they are just in my mind, serving as a reminder to make better choices.

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  3. Such great words to start the morning. It reminds me of a speech Oprah gave at Stanford a couple of years ago. She talked about living first from a space of love and how hard that it. Especially in situations that are hard. She decided that being right was secondary, to being kind. Such great food for thought! x

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  4. I sometimes find myself getting bitter when I see my friends and peers overcoming hurdles or being successful at certain aspects that I haven’t reached yet. I love how inspiring your post is. Really means a lot for all of us – we all have a story to tell and we’ve all been through something!

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  5. I can relate to a lot of this for sure and hope that I am not the bitter person although I do have a strong hate for people in general. I think I am just really picky about who I like and even though I am always polite to everyone while giving them a good chance at a first impression. It gets harder and harder as I get older though.

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  6. The bitterness will consume your life. I’ve had things that happened in the passed that consumed me for years. Once I learn to let it go I felt free. I no longer carry that in my heart. I pray and keep it moving. Great post

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    1. Yes, once you learn to let go, you are finally able to move forward. Prayer in my opinion is the true key when trying to move forward with your life. Thank you for comment. All the best to you.

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  7. It’s hard not to be bitter when things happen, especially in the past. I have had to learn to forgive, but not forget or the bitterness will just consume me. I too have had friends say the same thing. “How are you so normal with all that has happened to you” I say the same thing, I’m a survivor and learn to not repeat the horrible hand that was dealt to me. Sometimes resentment rears its ugly head, but I have better control of it now, because happiness is a choice and I choose happiness.

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    1. Spot on! When you learn to forgive those that hurt you, you release so much of emotional baggage. Becoming bitter is quite easy, learning to forgive and move on is a little harder, but once you do that, life again becomes more bearable. Stay strong. All the best to you! You are most definitely a survivor.

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