I know some people don’t mean any harm, but c’mon…
Allow this writer to deviate for just a moment. There was a picture floating around of me (not anymore now that I had it removed) where I had allowed my hair to grow really long. I had my hair blown out and flat ironed straight. Every single time this writer allows her hair to grow really long and straightens it, I have to hear or read such shameful back handed comments such as:
Omgosh she’s so cute to be Black.
You’re so pretty for a Black girl.
I’m not really attracted to Black women, but you’re beautiful.
That’s not her hair, it’s a weave!
If her hair is really that long, she’s got to be mixed.
Stop saying she’s Black, she’s obviously half Dominican. Black women don’t look like that.
As a Black woman, comments like that are not amusing whatsoever. Statements like that insinuates that Black women can’t be pretty and that only mixed Black women can be attractive. Not only that, to assume that my hair is a weave or that my hair only grows long because people assume I’m mixed also insinuates that Black women can’t grow long hair. Take it from this writer, when you give a compliment leave race out of it. There’s beauty in all of us and that is an undeniable fact.
Until next time…keep on writing!