Black Female Problems 

I know some people don’t mean any harm, but c’mon… 

Allow this writer to deviate for just a moment. There was a picture floating around of me (not anymore now that I had it removed) where I had allowed my hair to grow really long. I had my hair blown out and flat ironed straight. Every single time this writer allows her hair to grow really long and straightens it, I have to hear or read such shameful back handed comments such as:

Omgosh she’s so cute to be Black.

You’re so pretty for a Black girl.

I’m not really attracted to Black women, but you’re beautiful. 

That’s not her hair, it’s a weave!

If her hair is really that long, she’s got to be mixed. 

Stop saying she’s Black, she’s obviously half Dominican. Black women don’t look like that. 

As a Black woman, comments like that are not amusing whatsoever. Statements like that insinuates that Black women can’t be pretty and that only mixed Black women can be attractive. Not only that, to assume that my hair is a weave or that my hair only grows long because people assume I’m mixed also insinuates that Black women can’t grow long hair. Take it from this writer, when you give a compliment leave race out of it. There’s beauty in all of us and that is an undeniable fact. 

Until next time…keep on writing! 

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7 thoughts on “Black Female Problems ”

  1. Hahahah I don’t know why this made me laugh so hard! I think it’s the “Are you kidding me” GIF
    This post is so true though, but people will be willfully ignorant, all you can do is learn to love yourself & find your own happiness.. at least that’s what I do anyway. Thanks for sharing! xx

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  2. I think it is awesome that you are comfortable and happy being you and have embraced your authenticity! It is so easy to fall into the trap of making these insensitive and less than affirming comments because that mindset and way of viewing black women have become embedded into the mental fabric of society. You are powerful! You are beautiful! Keep shining!!

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  3. Isn’t it just sad that black women are so used to having broken, brittle relaxed that they don’t know that they are capable of having long, luscious, kinks?

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